Who paid for your wedding?

Question

Did you pay for your own wedding, or did your parents pay for it? (or parents: did you pay for your children's weddings? or not? )

Answer 1

it depend if your parent or his parent willing to pay for your wedding. Or you could have them pay for the wedding then pay then back later on, littler by littler untill you are pay off

Answer 2

My husband and I paid for our wedding because we were both in our late 20's and mid 30's. It was his 2nd marriage so it wasn't right to ask his mom to foot the bill.

More importantly, I wanted my parents and family to enjoy the wedding. I was getting paid pretty well so I didn't feel that I needed my parents to chip in because they already did so much for me when I was younger.

Having said that, I must admit that I'm so lulcky. Right before the wedding, my parents did give us a very generous check to use on anything we wished...honeymoon, down payment, etc. This was very generous and completely unexpected. I did put some of this toward our down payment for our house and I will never forget their generousity.

My parents taught all their children not to ask but to spend their money wisely. I think they saw how careful we were with our choices and they gifted us a very generous amount. Had I been very selfish and wasteful, I believe that they would not have been as kind. These are such wonderful lessons that I hope couples these days will remember. Also, I made sure to include my parents in the planning...making sure that many of their friends were included on the guest list. It was tough at times, but I'm glad that they enjoyed themselves so much.
This lesson helped me a lot to be more indepedent.

Answer 3

My wife's parents paid for most of it. My parents paid for the rehersal dinner the evening before the wedding. All the attendants and groomsmen paid for their own dresses and formal rentals.

My son is getting married. He and his fiance' are paying for most of the wedding. But we and the bride's parents are kicking in some money. My recommendation is that you make a budget to determine how much you want to and can afford to spend. Then, sit down with the parents and see what they'll help with.

Answer 4

My parents gave me the option of a house or a wedding...I chose the house, of course. They gave me 30k as the down payment and said that they would not be paying for the wedding. I don't have a problem with that because, when the time comes, there will be so much equity built up in the house that my fiance and I will be able to borrow against it...

So, technically, everyone wins!!

Answer 5

Well, my husband and I paid for our wedding (2nd marriage for both of us); then when his daughters got married 2 years apart, he & his ex-wife split expenses & the girls paid NOTHING!! Believe me, this put a financial stress on everyone involved and now we have family members not talking to other family members over finances. It sucks. Do your families & selves a favor and elope. Well, unless you have really wealthy parents, then go all out! But keep in mind if mom & dad are paying, mom is probably going to want to make alot of decisions that you do not agree with!

Answer 6

It was like a three way split my mom paid for the tuxes and the catering for the reception, I bought the wedding dress for my bride, payed for the church , flowers, and rings and my fiance side of the family sent us to Mexico for a week for our honey-moon rather then us getting a bunch of useless gifts.

Answer 7

we paid for part. then my father in law and my parents split the rest. my mother in law didn't pay for anything. she has the most money but only wanted to call the shots. I'm glad wedding planning is over! it has been over two years and the word wedding still makes me exasperated.

Answer 8

We paid for our own wedding. I am thinking of the reason you are posting this question. Most asian weddings are forked out by their parents. However, in this new generation, mostly are paid by the bride and bridegroom themselves.

Answer 9

Well my parents and his parents shared the costs equally. It wasn't a huge wedding though. That was 30 years ago. It depends on how much it'll cost and how much the parents can afford. Elope. Nothing wrong with that.

Answer 10

I was going to have to pay for my own, then my folks came through with the big buck from past due Disability for my dad. Got everything I wanted. My husband's folks paid for the rehersal dinner, and I bought my own dress, cake, JP, and flowers. My folks footed the bill for reception with open bar, limo, honeymoonm, and rental car. The greatest night of my life.