i just moved in with my boyfriend and i moved from another state. i left everything for him. we were very happy when we were apart and not living together. i knew he drank but it didnt seem to often. know that i am moved in the drinking has turned into an everyday thing. he brings up that his friends drink and every guy does that. but im not dating them. i love him very much want to make it work but i hate the drinking. sometimes he will try to hide it. And i see him drinking it. his mother gave us wine for the christmas dinner. he drank 2 bottles in one night. and then replaced the bottles and drank those 2 and the thrid one that night. i dont what to do anymore. i dont know if i should call it quits or try to stay. someone please help!
2006-12-18 16:47:09 · 10 answers · asked by doesnt know what to do 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i understand how you feel about the drinking issue. my husband used to drink alot when we first got together he would go through 2 cases of beer in one day and still want more. finally i got fed up and told him to choose me and our son or the alchol, he decided we were more important. give him an ultimatum if it bothers you that bad. at least ask him to slow down some if nothing more.
2006-12-18 17:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by sweetheart_ok_20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say live and let live, if you love him then learn to see past that, he's not hurting anyone. If you are really concerned you could let him know you are Worried about how often he is drinking but ultimately it shouldn't be affecting the relationship. He could just be under alot of stress, i find i drink more around christmas time, just dont throw a good thing away unless you are 100% sure that is what you really want, the last thing you want is to walk away from him then find out he was just going through a phase.
Good luck hun. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-12-19 00:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_az_kandii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is personal. I am truly sorry of your perdicument. I drink every night, a night cap or 2, but nothing like that. All you can do is tell him, try to get him to work on it, work with him, or ---sorry to say===leave.
2006-12-19 00:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by samaustinashlee_billiewjr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an alcoholic and you are in for nothing but a world of hurt. Leave now before it gets out of hand and you are in too far to go home. Gather your stuff, go home to family and find a decent guy.
2006-12-19 00:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you may have to give him an ultimatum like "quit drinking and go to AA or I'm leaving."
But the problem is that it won't work unless he wants to quit. Forced sobriety unlikely to work out.
Good luck.
If he cannot stay sober, you must go!!!! You don't deserve this.
2006-12-19 00:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN don't walk to the nearest exit! Do not look back, do not even give this guy another thought. You are headed down a path that you do not want to go down. It' s the path to hell on earth.
Get out now!
2006-12-19 00:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by LABL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit. Leave bolt hit the road
2006-12-19 00:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case,Love is just not enough.GET OUT NOW.RUN FOR YOUR LIFE,BEFORE HE DRAGS YOU DOWN WITH HIM
2006-12-19 00:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats to much, just ask him why he wanted you to move in if he was just going to get wasted.
2006-12-19 00:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by storminnormin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant trust a guy who drinks... if he is not changing now he will not change later... so u take a call on it.............
2006-12-19 00:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by deva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋