I just got engaged and I am 21 and my fiance is 20 and in the air force, it is too early and what age do you think we should start having kids I mean I don't want to have a 10 year old and be 35.
2006-12-18 16:21:48 · 40 answers · asked by almost married 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that age is good to get engaged if you have met the right person!! You must be so excited...congratulations!! As for the kids...get married first and then when you are both ready and stable enough financially then think about kids...theres plenty of time!! :)
2006-12-18 16:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by hello hello! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give, why wouldn't you want a 10 year old at 35? Most people would think that's the perfect time. In any case I'd suggest waiting until your fiance is 21 before considering marriage. Also, you don't say how long you've know each other, but if it's been less than two years the odds are that you'll be divorced well before you're 25. What's your fiance's ambition in life? What's yours? What's the hurry to have kids?
2006-12-18 18:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It entirely depends on the person. You have to be emotionally mature enough, which doesn't have a specific age.
You give up a lot when you get married, and even more when you have kids. You aren't free to take off and do whatever you feel like, party, spend time with your friends whenever you choose, make all your own choices... you have responsibilities, and you have to take the desires and needs of your spouse and kids into account in every decision you make. Get offered a great job on the other side of the country? You may not be able to take it. Your best friend want you to go on vacation with her? Sorry, you're saving that money for a down payment on a house, and you can't just take off on your husband for weeks at a time.
If you are ready for all that, great. If you're financially stable enough to have kids, go for it (not to say you should wait until you're "ready" because no one feels ready, but at least have a solid income and a plan). Some people are glad they had their kids when they were young and had the energy for it.
2006-12-18 16:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold on a sec-didn't you say yourself that maybe it's too early?? sweetie whether or not it's "ok" to be married at any given age depends on the people involved, their circumstances and their level of maturity. some 21-year-olds are more ready for marriage than some 31-year-olds! if you are asking this question, it means that you need to sit down and think this through very carefully-with your head and not your heart-and decide whether or not a lifetime commitment is really what you want at this point in your life and relationship. i wish you a lot of luck.
ps: my mom had a 10-year-old at 35-and two other kids! it can be done, if you so choose.
2006-12-18 16:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by missizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is okay to get married at the age of 21 as long as u are well prepare and get settle down for the marriage life.Understand the great commitment that you maybe facing. Time of having kid all depend on both of u. Having kid need a long term planning. Maybe u have to disscuss with your partner. The most important is to understand each other and feel comfortable for any decision made.
2006-12-18 16:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I turned 18. We will be celebrating our 30th in a couple weeks. I had my kids right away. I have to say that there are people my age that are just now starting to have kids. That is their thing. I was glad I had mine early because I get to enjoy them as adults and I am still young enough that we all can do things together and my age is not a factor and I am healthy enough that I can still keep up with them if not ahead of them. Smile So it really depends on each person's preference.
2006-12-18 16:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to get married as long as you both are prepared to take on a marriage. Its alot of work. If u too love each other and know in your hearts that you are ready then go ahead. As for having kids you should wait atleast three years or so, so that you both can enjoy each other more and be ready and secure to bring in a baby. you are both still young and i dont recommend a baby right now. Your fiance is also in the airforce, so he will probably be away alot more now then later so just wait on having baby. congratulations on engagement and good luck.
2006-12-18 16:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well It all depends on how u feel. If you feel prepared to be a mom and have that responsibility go ahead! :) And the age is just a number because at 21 there a ppl mature enough to get married and start building a family. Remember it also depends if u are economically stable to begin having children, because life gets more and more expensive as time passes by...
2006-12-18 16:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by à®?à¹?IVYà®?๠1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have kids when you are around 25. I owned a house at 21 for gods sake, we ended breaking up and I made some money off it.
I have a child now and this is a good age for having kids, cause the partying is out of your system.
2006-12-18 16:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife just turned 21... you need to not be pressured into what does everyone else think about you being married at 21... you need to do what you feel is right and what you want to do. If you want to be married at 21 then it's a great age to be married, if you don't then it's not a good time.
2006-12-18 16:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Big Dummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋