I dated a girl for 2 years. Well over the time i started to get scared and have some doubts. About a week goes on where i'm talking to a buddy of mine about if i should break it off with her or not. But one day i got completely blackout drunk and ended up passing out in this other girls bed. NOTHING happened at all, i did try to cuddle with her but i was still drunk and not really coherent with what was going on. I broke up with my girlfriend that same day, and then started seeing the girl i ended up with that night. 3 months go by and i try to get over my xgirlfriend but i never do, at the same time i'm dating that other girl and nothing is going right. FInally one day i break it off with that girl and i end up back in bed with my xgirlfriend that same night. We have been talking a lot and seeing each other again for the past month. Should i tell her about the night we broke up, even though it truely and honestly had NOTHING to do with me and her breaking up??? I never did cheat.
2006-12-18 16:20:30 · 17 answers · asked by Midtown 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never had sex with either of the girls
2006-12-18 16:25:50 · update #1
if you were too drunk to remember, then no need to tell her...
just tell her the whole truth... i'm sure she'll understand...
2006-12-18 16:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by ajsavior 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't going out it is not important to tell her about that night. She will thank you for it in the long run. It will hurt her and you may never get a chance to talk to her again. If you didn't cheat you have nothing to worry about. Keep your mouth shut...but if you're going that route than you need to make sure all your buddies are going to stay silent also because if she hears it from someone else she'll be torn up. So you got a hard decision to make and truthfully honesty is usually the best policy. Hard decision...Good Luck!
2006-12-19 00:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you are a very great and honest man it seems like who made a normal mistake like any other person and more men should have a consious like yours.
I feel you don't have to tell her ANYTHING..Why try to fix it if it's not broken. Now if theres some loud mouth going around that may tell her then you will have to tell her first. First of all tell her you were dumb at the time and didn't realize what a good thing you had and you made a stupid mistake and you are glad that things have worked out and you are back together. Then tell her and you better kiss the hek out of her after you tell her and take her out right away..to Cici's Pizza...jsut kidding but you seem like a great guy and she better understand or that's her lost.
2006-12-19 00:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by LaToya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! I don't see what good that would do other than screw up the relationship. (By the way, you are my idol for pulling this off the way you did, hopping from bed to bed like that. Damn you're good!)
You were pissed-up drunk when it happened and you didn't have sex with that girl on the first night. When she finds out you were in bed with that girl, she won't believe that you didn't have sex. So shut your mouth about it. You're back where you wanted to be (miraculously I might add) so don't screw it up.
2006-12-19 00:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by chris_in_columbia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting along just keep quiet for now unless you think the other girl may say something to her. Because she will start thinking how do i know for sure whether anything happened or not he was passed out drunk and anything could have happened-anyway he was in bed with her!
2006-12-19 00:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should tell her something because if you don't she will think even though it is not true that you cheated on her when you didn't. on the other hand she might think that you broke up with her on the same night right which could mean that she will think that you are lieing to her. so you make a choice tell her or not
2006-12-19 00:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by devin c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you never actually cheated then it wouldn't matter either way, if she thiks you did then yes i would explain it to her so she know its not true, but otherwise i don't see how it would make a difference
2006-12-19 00:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Justin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were SOOOO drunk, how do you know nothing happpend??!! Before you have sex agian, you should be tested.
You sound like a bed-jumper.
2006-12-19 00:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU NEED TO LEAVE SLEEPIN DOG LIES,BUT YOU
HAVE MORE OF A PROBLEM YOU SEEM LIKE YOU REALLY
DONT KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. AND DRINKING IS NOT
A GOOD THINGS AT ALL. REALLY YOU NEED TO BE BY
YOUR SELF TO FIND WHAT YOU WANT. OTHER WISE
THIS WILL BE A PROBLEM DOWN THE ROAD.
2006-12-19 00:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you can live with it, then dont say anything. me on the other hand...i would have to say something. i can't keep things like that from someone i love. im the kinda person that has to be COMPLETELY honest, even if it is something stupid and i KNOW i shouldnt say anything. lol. thats going to have to be your call tho.
2006-12-19 00:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋