My friend met a guy one week before he was to get married. During that week, she explained that they talked each day and they feel in love... On the night before his wedding, he was @ her home and explained to her that he was not ready BUT because everything had been planned, he had go on with it. On the day of his wedding, he called her from the church to say hello and that he was about to do it. About 2 hours later he called and said that he was @ the reception and would be by later. Since the wedding which was in September - he has left his wife and is now living with my friend.. She says that it is not her fault because he and his wife were having problems before. I explained that it still does not make it right.. HE IS MARRIED and until he divorces, she is still making matters worse by staying with him..
She says they are in love and that out of all the men she has dated, he is the one that she wants to spend her life with.. Is this love or lust... What should she do?
2006-12-18 16:10:20 · 15 answers · asked by KeraniBai 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds more like infatuation. I feel bad for the woman that he married.
2006-12-18 16:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your friend is wrong. It doesn't make it her fault, because he is a grown man, but she is still in the wrong. Knowing tha t the man was to be married, she should have stayed away. That she didn't she may feel that she is in love with him, but I don't think that was the case then. I think that you need to let your friend ride this one out alone. You knew that it was wrong, & you tried to tell her. Though the man did already leave his new wife, doesn't make it better, & because he wasn't sure before the wedding he should not have done it. He is more at fault than any one, but your friend isn't an angel, & you need to let her live this out, because if you try to say anything, you may lose a friend, it you don't say anything, she gets hurt potentially, just be there for her.
2006-12-19 00:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by sis_jk27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before she can move forward he needs to get a divorce. He would not be my pick for my daughter. He knew that their where problems and still went thru the marriage. I say Lust If he gets the divorce then love
2006-12-19 00:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by Biometric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's sadly the other woman. she might love him, but he got married. he probably loves his wife and just wants a mistress. until he divorces his wife, it will prove if he loves his wife or the your friend.
every newlywed will always have marital problems, does not mean he does not love his wife.
it can be love, but like i said, as long as they are married, she will be the other woman for he can get up one day and go back to his wife.
he really did not need to go on with the wedding, and by going along with it, shows he has some huge feelings for his wife.
your friend is just someone he can have sex with and feel like a player.
2006-12-19 00:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a DOG!! If he didn't want to get married then he shouldn't have no matter how much planning and money was spent! I would advise her to stay away, this guy has serious issues and how could she ever trust him?? I would stay away until the divorce is final because it is just the right thing to do.
2006-12-19 00:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by The_Game 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust. She should get a single man.
What type of man is he, that he couldn't get the b*lls to say, "Look I don't think getting married is a good idea. Lets not get married so we don't have to divorce later." That would be a man who is not afraid. What she is dating is a little boy playing at being a man.
2006-12-19 00:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's lust. once he divorces his wife, I'm sure your friend wouldn't want him anymore, things will be different, she's only thrilled to be with him, because he's taken. I think he should leave your friend, and work things out with his wife. He shouldn't have gotten married, if he knew he was involving with another girl, that's not right.
2006-12-19 00:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, if he was falling inlove with her, he shouldn't of gotten married to begin with BECAUSE that's just asking for trouble. A lot of people move in with other people before they get devorced, though, it's not uncommon. If she's truly your friend, just let it be, and hopfully it will work out for the best. Maybe they are inlove, or maybe they'll fall apart just like him and that one chick he just got married to did.. Wow, wouldn't that suck!
2006-12-19 00:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he left the one he left his wife for? Bad paraphrase of an old country song but if he left one wife why would your friend think that he won't leave her when the next cute girl flirts with him.
2006-12-19 00:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably loves him. but he doesnt love her. if he did he would have called off the wedding plans or no plans. she is the other woman. how does she know that he wont do the samething to her that he did to his wife? hes a loser and always will be
2006-12-19 00:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋