I don't know what he left. I have to face my mom to find out. She has never been kind to me, i only wish she would tell me why. I would like to go about this will love and kindness. I doubt she will accept kindness. What should I do. I've never had to deal with death and wills.
2006-12-18 16:03:42 · 20 answers · asked by red 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First I'm sorry for your situation, I would suggest a lawyer. If you were left something in someones will you have the right by law to receive it. Good luck!!
2006-12-18 16:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by The_Game 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a father or mother leaves their child money, usually the guardian has control of how the money is spent if the child is underage. If the child is 18 or older it goes directly to the beneficiary. If your dad really wanted you to get the inheritance, he would have put it in a trust that only you can access when you are 18. I really don't know how to go about getting the information from your mom except that maybe you can say that you really want to know how much you are dealing with for school/college so that you can plan your life. Ask her the details then, if you can get it at what age. Sometimes the money is put into trusts for 18, then maybe 21, then 30. You just need to know how your dad set it up. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-12-19 10:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be very careful how you proceed. If she is showing animosity this could mean trouble.
Call her and speak to her with kindness, respect and make your request very clearly and calmly. If this gets you nowhere, I would then send a registered letter basically saying the same thing as the phone call, but in writing.
If this gets you nowhere, then you should seek help from a lawyer who will direct you further.
Most importantly, keep records of everything. Record the phone call if possible and definitely keep a copy of your letter (and any she might send back).
The better you approach this from the start the better your chances if it reaches court.
I'm sorry for your loss and even more sorry that family turns it's back when it's most painful. Life should not be like that.
2006-12-19 00:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by avishtevi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your father left you an inheritance your mother cant stop you from recieving it. YOu may need to hire an attorney. I know that sounds expensive but may be the only way. You can try threatning her first if being nice dont work tell her that you hired an attorney and he's filling out the paperwork to take her to court so she can either do this the easy way or she can do it the hard way and once you take her to court tell her when you win and you will win that she will get to pay for the whole court cost just for being the way she's being. If that dont work then you may need to seriously get an attorney. You have every right to that inheritance and she cant keep it.
2006-12-19 00:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r of age then the inheritence is yours. Unfortunatly U probably will need a lawyer and bang, there goed the inheritance. Unless she has contested the will it is yours. R U under age and does she have control of the money? Either way it will cost both of U. A couple of lawyers get richer and both U & your Mum get poorer.
2006-12-19 00:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by ub6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't she want you to get the inheritance? Were your parents separated or together when your father died? Your father left it to you for a reason and I think that you should take things into your own hands. You need to get whatever your father left you. Your mother will understand someday. It is hard to understand because I am a mother and I would want my son to have whatever his father left him if he ever passed away. I wouldn't be rude and unkind to him. It is just as much loss to him as it would be me. If you feel that you need to give your mother a explanation...tell her that your father wanted you to have whatever he left and you would like to have it. If she is not kind...she will get over it someday!
2006-12-19 00:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy that is tough. Seak a counselor it will help. My dad passed away and left money to the kids and not mother. It was very hard for me to watch everyone else get mony and not her. If you feel in your heart that you think your mother should get so money then give her some. But be careful, She had to put up with the man and may feel that she should get it all. Good luck
2006-12-19 00:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Biometric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the money and run. Sounds like your Mom wants to get her hands on the money your Dad left you so go away from her and live your life.
2006-12-19 00:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are legally entitaled go for it no matter what it requires. Your Mum will not care if you dont her present attitude to you proves that .You are entitaled to live out your life in the happiest way possible and your Dad understood this that is why after his death he stills wants to help you.
2006-12-19 00:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't tell you then ask the executor or a lawyer. She has no right to keep any thing unless you are underage or it specifically states some stipulation.
2006-12-19 00:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by moobiemuffin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋