My grandchildren lack simple manners. How do I ask my daughter to teach them manners?

Answer 1

Teach them yourself.

Answer 2

Just start teaching them manners the same way you taught your daugher, preferably when your daughter is present.

She'll either get the hint and start teaching the kids on her own, or she won't bring the kids around any more. Although the second scenario is probably not what you want to happen, be prepared for the possibility.

Answer 3

no woman would like her children being reported, whoever does and whatsoever the problem is!

in front of your grandchildren, try to smile off all the irritating behaviour they've got and try to attract them to your side first! let them have a firm opinion that you are an enjoyable person to be with. then start telling them stories, ofcourse that have a moral of basic etiquette and manners! be a role model thyself and point out to them the manners of esteemed people around them.

do tell your daughter that if her children had acquired some more good habits and manners (please dont say they dont have any!)
they'd surely reach great heights in their life!

all the best, and do tell us if everything got ok.

Answer 4

Maybe when they come over try to teach them the basics yourself, or when out in public, point out to your daughter how the kids can benefit from usuing manners, at home use a lot of praise for good manners, ignore bad ones, they will catch up, or make it a fun game at your house

Answer 5

Manners! yes indeed...I think if your daughter cared she would have instilled manners from day one ... I bet you are on your own on this... I insist on proper manners at my house. I gently teach them at meals...first by example and then by suggestion . It may take saying " that behavior is not acceptable here " and maybe..". I know you can do that better...may I show you how? " etc.There are schools where children are taught basic manners look in your phone book under Etiquette. This will help them in many ways now and in their future. I am so happy that you care and are willing to show your love by taking action...AND it might not hurt to mention it to their mom as well...

Answer 6

Unfortunately it might be impossible to get your daughter to teach them basic manners. One thing you can do is when they are at your house tell them they have to use manners. It's your house, you set the rules. Also when they are talking to you (even if it's at your daughter's house) make them say please and thank you when appropriate. My sister isn't teaching my niece manners either, but when she comes to my house she ALWAYS says please, thank you, and excuse me, I don't even have to remind her anymore. She just knows that when she is at Aunt Rachel's house she has to follow the rules. There are other things too, like not getting into things that she's not supposed to and not yelling. It's kind of weird that she behaves better for me than her mother.

Answer 7

If I were you I would tell them off right there and then when they exhibit bad manners. No need to ask your daughter to teach them, you can teach them. After all you are the grandmother and if they are in your house, you have all the right to tell them off.

Answer 8

well, first off, don't go on yelling like a caveman when your granchildren comes over and acts up. just count to ten, and then try to tell them in a gentle but firm manner, that such actions will not be tolerated in your house and you should talk to your daughter as well. so that she will also remember how you brought her up, assuming that you taught her this as well. live by example and not by preaching only. sooner or later, they will following your lead.just be patient. and if things comes to worse and they don't follow your ground rules, then just tell your daughter that they can't come over unless she teaches them how to conduct themselves properly. this may be hard for her to accept this at first, but she will realize its value in the long run for sure.

Answer 9

You simply ask her why she is not teaching the children manners? Obviously you have taught her, or you would not be questioning it. Or when they are around you, teach them the simple manners please, thank you, excuse me, etc. They will learn from you and use them throughout life. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 10

You have to be careful, it is really frustrating when someone is interfering... even if it's with the best intentions. My advice would for you just to be a good example and demonstrate good manners in front of them, or if they are at you house require it!

Answer 11

Obviously you tought her manners as a child, so just call her out on it. If that doesnt work, then just insist they behave at your house if they want to come over. Eventually she will see them behaving at your house and maybe get jealous that they behave well for you and not for her and will try to do something about it.