My suddenly ended our 2 yr relationship saying his parents arent happy about us and that he suddenly realised (after talking to his dad) that he needs to be alone.
I love him so much and would do anything to have him back but its impossible. Im so messed up over this i have considered ending it all. i just cant be without him, we had all these plans together and then he just throws everythin away. has anyone else ever felt like this?
2006-12-18 15:27:16 · 15 answers · asked by Onie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not worth throwing away it all because he's not old enough to come to his own conclusions about a 2yr relationship. He needs to mature. Take this time to be by yourself and look at what you really need in a partner. Is it really someone who listens to everything mommy and daddy tell him? After putting in that time to a relationship and it fails for something so stupid you have every right to feel as you do. Give yourself time, you will get over this. 6 months from now he'll want you back and you will have found someone else who's better for you than you ever thought could happen.
2006-12-18 15:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ending a relationship is a very emotional and difficult thing. First of all, if you are thinking of ending it all, then you need to get some help from a counselor. It can feel like the end of the world, but it's not. If you have a good friend or preferably, an adult you can talk with, that's even better. I'm assuming you are young, so if not, my apologies. If this is the first serious relationship you have had, that can make things even harder. You really need to start out by respecting and appreciating yourself... do something fun, try to keep busy to keep your mind off things, if possible. If you sit around and mope and think about it, it will just make things worse. The parent issue is probably just part of it, there could be other reasons, but you just need to understand that by continuing to think about it, or to try to talk with him about it, you are just lowering yourself to looking desperate. There is someone out there for you & he's probably a hell of a lot better than this guy -- you'll find him & he'll have parents that adore you :)
2006-12-18 15:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I feel so bad for you because I have felt this way before. I dated my boyfriend for about two years and then he dumped me. I was heartbroken, I really thought that he was "the one." But, you know, it does get easier, after a few months I had realized a lot about myself, especially that I didn't NEED a guy. And often things work out, my guy just needed some time to figure stuff out and now after a few more years of dating we are getting married in August! My advice is to be the best person you can be with or without a guy. You can not make someone love you. Maybe he just needs some time to think and figure out what he wants, I mean do you really want to be with someone who does not have his whole heart in your relationship? Cry all your tears and then get up and make a fresh start; get a new hobby, go to the gym, that kind of stuff. Take care honey, it will all work out.
2006-12-18 15:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course we have been though that. I had a 5 year relationship end because she "Had gotten all she could out of me" when she got into medical school. I can tell you that there are no easy answers, I can tell you the pain might not ever go away. As much as you might not be able to believe this. You can't make him come back. If you appear weak or needy, it will just drive him away. Don't try to replace him, find out who you are without him and try to make that worthwhile, and if he makes up for hurting you, great. If you find someone else great. But at least you will have taken care of you.
2006-12-18 15:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by Khane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have and i know what you going through so relax my ex also through 2years of my life away but i cried it all out told him i still love him and that wont change but i should move on and i did and i say thank you to him every day cause the man i am with means the world to me so let go and let the man of your dreams find you i will never stop loving my ex but if it weren't for him i would never have met the man of my dreams so when one door closes a better one opens just be strong and hold on you need time to heal and let yourself find love maybe you and your ex weren't meant to be so good luck in finding a true love .
2006-12-18 15:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its a very hard thing to go thru, you just have to keep your head up. He cant let his parents run his life or maybe that was just an excuse for him? Either way you should try and stay positive There is other men out there, one more deserving of your love...his loss not urs.
2006-12-18 15:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but i went through that when I was 16 yrs my boyfriends mother said we were too serious and we broke up..... but needless to say when we matured we hooked back up and talked for most of our college years off and on ... so if its meant to be it will be.... parents only have control until the age of 18 once you move out its fair game but..... depending on your age.... love endures all...
2006-12-18 16:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there.................. It actually gets better with time. And if the parents can influence him like that, you'll find out how much happier you can be when you meet someone who is thier own person
2006-12-18 15:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by hudson_floridamale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend (boyfriend) died when I was 17. At least there is some chance that you can still see him. I can never physically see or touch him again. What if he died then what would you do?
2006-12-18 15:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by WINGS 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
>Welcome citizen. It happens to us all at some point...usually many times. Learn something from it and go on with life. You are the female, it will be naturally easier for you than it is for him.<
2006-12-18 15:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by Druid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋