just wondering because im really in love with this girl and im 20 and some say its too early but I dont think so.....i mean i have a good job, i can support her, im in the air force, everything will be fine.....
2006-12-18 15:26:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all you both need to be older than 18. Then, you must ask some serious questions other than the mutual attraction...
Have you both found yourself before finding each other?? In other words, if you don't know who you are then how can you know who you want for the rest of your life? Marriage is serious so I'd make sure you both already have careers set including college or you have made a lifelong decision to stay in the military. Next, do you have similar goals for 5, 10, or even 50 years down the road? What about kids? Do you share the same religion? What about the kids religion? Where do you plan on living now and later? Ask tons of if and then questions. What about bills and money etc?? Do you have common hobbies or other interests? What about traditions? Where do you go if it is Christmas or some other holiday? Are you ok with her family and their traditions and is she with yours? How do both resolve conflicts? Is that ok with each of you?
There are tons of questions of course but there's a start. Remember if you really love each other you can stay engaged longer to make sure all will be ok before taking the final plunge. Marriage is a beautiful thing but it is more important to make a good decision for both of you. So be honest and make sure she is too!
Best of luck!
2006-12-18 15:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by eastern NC Sensei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were married when we were 21 and that was 40 years ago. If you are both mature and have known each other for a long time I see no reason why you shouldn't. My husband and I dated for 7 years before we got married. In those days you didn't live together so we really had no choice but to get married because we were also very much in love. I really don't think age has anything to do with maturity. However, I would suggest you both make a list of the pros and cons of getting married at this age. You both should discuss what your expectations are for a marriage. Sorting out problems before can make things easier later. I definately would not start a family for at least five years until you both really get to know each other. We began ours when we were 25. Good luck.
2006-12-18 23:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her and she really loves you, you should totally do it. The air force is a great career to be in and for your kids you can have many benefits. I am getting married soon and my husband is in the air force and 20 and I know everything will be fine. Just go with your heart.
2006-12-18 23:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by almost married 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
20 is way to early.
People that get married young, feel like there lives are missing something, and they feel like if they get married, then that void will be filled. Trust me. That void is always gonna be there. Its life's way of letting us know that we should keep following our dreams and live life to the fullest. (That's a good thing)
The happiest people in the world, are people that always want something. Whether its knowledge, material, pursuing goals.........ect.
Picture your whole life on a Time-line.
1-18 years old- school
18-20 years old - get married start a family
20- 90 years old- take care of kids and work. Then die.
Boring!!!!!!
But what about.
1-18 years old - school
18-35 years old - college life, Party, have fun, travel, go clubbing, sky diving.
35-90 years old - get married, start a family, remissness of crazy years. Then die.
Sounds way better.
live your life to the fullest.
That's all I'm saying.
2006-12-18 23:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by roberto3331 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some it is not, for some it is. If you are able to support the two of you and your family plans, then go ahead. Is she in college? If so, wait until she has her degree. Waiting doesn't hurt - but if you are spiritually ready to make the leap - go for it. Go to marriage counseling with a pastor (3 or 4 times is all) and make sure you are both ready. Good luck - and have fun! Thanks for serving this Great Country. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-18 23:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by twicewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily! My son and his wife married 30 years ago. Both were 18 yrs. old. I married young [18] and my husband just passed away after over 53 happy yrs. In both cases our youth made us more adaptable to change.We had not grown set in our ways and in fact grew up together. In both cases the couple knew each other for many years.
2006-12-18 23:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by annarvia@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're both too young based upon my personal experience of marrying to young, although being in the service will mature much faster....it might actually work out. There are alot of young girls who end up cheating on military men also though.
2006-12-18 23:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lara Croft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you very sure you can support her, if she has a kid or two or three, you need to be very financially secure if you want to support a family, and as for love, clear your mind and imagine your life without her, would you be lonely, and how lonely would you be? At a young age you should be able to let of greif when it comes. Take another year to decide, that's my advice.
2006-12-18 23:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by shai brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age ain't nothin but a number
if you have no doubt then go for it, but it is a fact that young couples often do mistakes in their youth, maybe that's why some said it's 2 early 4 you. They just worry 'bout you....
2006-12-18 23:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by yulia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married at 18. i say it depends on the mind frame of the individual. of course if the person is still playing with dolls then yeah maybe too young
2006-12-18 23:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋