I just found out my sister-in-law, (husband's brother's wife) who is "making" Christmas Eve dinner, (and who I've seen "helping" at my inlaws' without washing her paws) is serving the leftover ham and turky from HER families' dinner. My mother in law left a message that we're supposed to bring a lettuce salad only. Now I'm sorry. If I want to be served Christmas leftovers, I'll show up on the 26th, not the 24th! I want to bring fresh food. Am I the one who's unreasonable?
2006-12-18 15:20:14 · 17 answers · asked by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that is not showing proper respect and etiquette. I wouldn't serve leftovers to different guest and at a different dinner.If you stayed alnight with someone and ate it for dinner the next day or you were invited to eat leftovers from the same dinner you were invited to initially then that would be fine.To have another dinner with new guest and use the same food is not okay.If I were you I would have a dinner and invite everyone to your house for Christmas at a later date such as the 27th for example and serve food that hasn't been munched on.When you attend this dinner go ahead and bring the "lettuce salad" but bring toppings on the side like croutons, bacon, dressings, etc. Then bring a "complete meal" side dish like chicken and dumplings and have your family eat that in exchange for the ham/turkey or their meal.I think she is being cheap and lazy.I don't think you are being unreasonable, I think you have a right to feel the way you do.If they say anything about you bringing "extra food" just say really nicely It's no big deal, I just wanted to help out.I didn't sweat it a bit.I hope this helps.
2006-12-18 15:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by daddysgirl92280 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Did you marry my ex-husband, because that sure does sound like his family! haha
Looks like you really can't say anything with looking like the troublemaker. I had Thanksgiving at my home with my husband's family, and brought the leftover food to my parent's for supper that night. However, it was the same day, and I asked my family if that was ok with them before doing so. It's just the proper thing to do. I also brought a 'fresh' dish that I made specificallly for my parent's party. I felt that no matter what leftovers were brought, it still wasn't officially mine, and I didn't feel like I was fulfilling my obligation to bring something if I didn't truely make it myself.
I can see how your sister-in-law would favor this idea, since it's less work for her, killing 2 birds w/one stone, but she should've check with the rest of you before doing so - especially if it was from a previous night, and picked over or left sitting out for germs, pets, nasty kiddie snot & unwashed hands, etc.
I totally agree with your way of thinking, so don't feel 'fresh' food is so unreasonable a request! I agree with a previous answer to maybe eat before you leave, then just get a small plate of your dish, along with the dish from the parents,etc, and totally avoid her leftovers. If someone makes a comment, maybe that would be your chance to politely speak your mind, and not have to bring the subject up on your own.
Best of luck, and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-18 16:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being unreasonable in your feelings at all -- I, too, would be irritated at being served "used" food for Christmas dinner. But it's not worth making an issue over. Do you have any kids? You could prompt one of your kids to say what mine did at a party where we, too, were clearly served leftovers. He took one look at the "previously owned" turkey on the table and said, "that looks like something a lion would be gnawing on in a nature documentary." Oh my. I nearly died but kids do speak the truth. Good luck, and Merry Christmas. Next year you have it at your house and serve everything beautiful and fresh. No one will want to go to your sis-in-law's anymore.
2006-12-18 15:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, you are not being unreasonable. Don't say anything to your sis in law or mother in law, just bring some lovely fresh food to the dinner (so at least you have that to eat and no left overs and you won't offend anyone) and make sure you tell everyone to "wash their paws" before dinner!! Good luck.
2006-12-18 15:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! Don't eat the food she serves and stick with the salad. I would make a festive holiday salad that is hearty. Maybe bring a cheese ball with crackers to be served. Go to Betty Crocker.com. There is a recipe for a festive salad there. You can make that and bring a lettuce salad. Good luck. Happy Holidays.
2006-12-18 17:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not unreasonable, but Mrs Ecoli is. Nothing wrong with leftovers but as you say, after your Moms main meal not Mrs Ecoli's leftovers served up as your main Xmas dinner.
She not washing paws, this might call for a quick stop at Big Mac's (prior to going to Moms) and eat around what she has scratched up (if you get the meaning).
2006-12-18 15:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by lew1942 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go. That is just rude and disgusting to serve someone elses picked through leftovers. Why not just start picking things out of the trash can next Christmas?
LOL I have a thing about people touching my food. I would be freaking out if I were you.
2006-12-18 15:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like something that would happen between me and my sister-inlaw LOL. I would make other dinner plans and visit with the family before or after that meal. You can still spend time together and visit without eating :)
2006-12-18 15:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by micjamms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah...that sounds gross!!! I would have your husband discuss the issue with his brother. I agree with you. Is your husband's side of the family not good enough for fresh food? If the X-mas dinner is too much for her to handle, then maybe, you should have the dinner at your house. If no one will budge on this, I think Mcdonalds is open on X-mas eve!!! Good luck!
2006-12-18 16:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋