Was going through my "girlfriends" email and found this...?

Question

I'll admit it, I've gone though my girlfriends email before. Not often, but I guess just to be sure. Today I found an email from a kid at her school that she is supposedly "just friends" with and it read something like this..."i miss you and cant wait to see you
MWAH!!!!" And interestingly enough shes going to his house tomorrow to "drop of a book" that he supposedly forgot at school. I also found and older email from the same kid that ends with "Love Squishy", apparently his nickname she gave him. I don't know what to think of this or if I should bring it up with her. It kind of got my adrenaline flowing at the fact it appears shes been lying to me and going behind my back. What would you do?

We are both in college, over the age of 21. However, we go to different schools, which is why I am concerned because I cannot keep and eye on her all the time.

Answer 1

I would offer her a ride to that friends place where she's supposed to drop off the book. If she's evasive about it (and she will be) confront her why is it not OK for you accompany her. Expect a lot of "Howcome you're so jealous and posessive" well you will have to think of someting to say to that.

You really SHOULDN'T be going through her e-mail. There are other warning signs that you must be missing, if there is something to worry about. Learn to pay attention to real warning signs rather than going through people's e-mails. That's just gross. She will be furious when she finds out, and rightly so.

Answer 2

To me, it sounds like she has a male friend. People have friends that they talk to like that, believe it or not. Especially if they are close. If anyone in the relationship has a problem, it's you. You're invading her privacy, jumping to conclusions, and getting overly jealous. I don't see where she has "lied" to you. There is no proof in any of that that she's cheating on you.

You are the one "going behind" her back by reading her personal mail. If I were you, I would do nothing. You have no proof that she's doing anything, and you're only going to ruin the relationship when you have to explain what brought you to this conclusion (reading her email).

And if you really can't trust her, then you need to break up with her.

Answer 3

End the relationship. You don't trust her, whether her actions justify it or not, you have strong suspicions and you will not get past this. If you "need to know" badly enough, confront her, but be prepared to come Clean on your snooping (which will mean an almost certain break-up).

One more thought. You may have some trust issues beyond this relationship that need to be looked at. Try open communication and keep things up front and honest with future relationships.

Answer 4

hmmm well even though she may be lying to you, it doesnt make it all right that your reading her email. snooping is not respectful towards her, but that might be the least of your worries now if she is cheating on you. i say you be like oh, can i go with you to drop the book off, i need to go to a store near that kids neighborhood. i think you should also find an insider that know him who you can trust.

honestly, the hardest thing is the best thing which is confrontation. you dont have to say you went through her eamil, but you should just say, "my gut is telling me somethings wrong" or "i just get a bad feeling about that guy". if she really cares she will take your feeling into consideration, but be prepared if she gets butthurt that you dont trust her or him.

Answer 5

Look, the fact that you are going through her emais just proves that you don't trust her. I think you are the one with the problem in this relationship. It sounds to me that squishy might even be gay. You have no right to be going through her emails. If you confront her about this, there really is no backpedalling about it. You are just going to have to admit to what you did and she may not even be lying to you or doing anything wrong. Then you are the one who is left being the one who is not trustworthy. You need to get your head in check. Mental health is just a copay away. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Simple way of showing affection in the written form. They really have a close friendship and are open w/one another. I wouldnt read to much into this. Why dont you ask her how are things going w/squishy? See how she responds. If they are such good friends then why havent you met him. Suggest that maybe one night you guys should all go out for the evening. See how she reacts to that. If its out of the question then I would begin to wonder.

Answer 7

I would talk to her bout it cuz otherwise its gonna eat u up. And eventually it wil ruin ur feelings for her. Its happened to me. Just let her know that u dont want to start a arguement or fight u just want to know the truth, that u thought it was weird that she was shouldnt be getting emails from this person.

Answer 8

eeehh... Did you "guess" her email password or did she tell you? If she told you, it might make this easier. If you want to know what's up, then go straight to her and tell her what you did and what you found..if you're the honest type. But you will have to own up that you did check and read her email with her. If I was in your shoes, I would be upfront and tell her what I found, but that's just me.

Answer 9

first of all shame on you for being so nosy!!! i do it too its ok i dont blame you. (my bf lied repeatedly to me about girls online so i check everything he does). have you talked to her. does she know you know. i would ask to go along with her to drop off the book. see what her reaction is. or offer to drop it off for her. if theres nothing going on it shouldnt be a problem, right? personally, from what ive been through dont trust her. if she hasnt told u about this herself than chances are there is something to hide. i was going to email you so we could talk if you wanted to. ive been through this and still am. if you want email me at [e-mail]

Answer 10

Funny