i am 16 n engaged, do u think this is to young? i'v known my bf years n we never had sex, im still a virgin n he is waitin until im ready to give it up, n we r in luv
2006-12-18 14:58:57 · 26 answers · asked by haitian_child 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First of all, i'm glad you haven't had sex yet. Wait for marriage on that one. Well, currently i am 18 and engaged to be married in a little over a week. I don't see anything wrong with being engaged if you two really are serious about it. The problem is, most people THINK they both are serious, when they really don't have any idea what they are getting themselves into (i was engaged at 15, but ended up breaking things off with that guy because i realized that, and now i am about to get married to a different guy that i love wayy more. i just thought that i loved the other guy more than i could ever love anyone just because i had never felt that way before) Point is: you two need to sit down and talk about it, and ACTUALLY talk about it. Not all the good happy stuff, talk about the things people don't like talking about. like finances, and family, and where you guys will live, etc. Make sure that you have talked about everything before you decide if marriage is right. What my fiance and i did was we bought a preparing for marriage handbook and worked through it together. Trust me it helps a lot. If you two love each other then there is no problem with it, just get all the preparation you can. It really does help, take it from another young engaged person (also, it gives you something to fight with when people tell you that you are too young, because they can't say anything when you are taking all those precautions. I love using it and shutting people up!) Good luck with everything and congrat!!
2006-12-18 16:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by Andii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have to even ask this question (however unreadable it was) speaks to the fact that you are too young. While "being engaged" sounds romantic and makes you feel all warm and tingly inside, it also implies a serious decision to marry. Are you ready to walk down the aisle? Live with this person? Have children? Get a job and take care of them? Who is going to make the mortgage payment? Do you REALLY want to deal with all that at 16?? If I married the guy I wanted to at 16, I'd be living in a trailer with 5 kids right now. There is way more to marriage than having sex or being "in love." By the way, you don't need to be engaged or married to have sex, unless that is a rule in your religion. Whatever you decide to do, use protection. I'm sick of paying taxes for teen-aged parents.
2006-12-19 13:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are 16 and he is 18 and what I am going to say may upset you but it is the truth. The "love" you think you have for him now at age 16 wont be the same love you will feel for a man when your 21 and the "love" you have now will not be enough when you are older. You are 16 yrs young it is way to young to be attempting to plan to spend the rest of your life with some boy that is also very young. You need life experiances and chosing to be engaged at such a young age you will be missing out on alot. Remember love at 16 isnt the same type of love you will want and need at 21 and the love you have at 21 wont be the same love you need at 25. Slow down whats the rush?
2006-12-18 15:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT's good to wait at least 2 years to see if it's really love and not just an infatuation before you marry. 16 is a little young to start coupling. You're risking having a baby and that's a life changing committment. Many woman who are 26 feel they're not ready and many more wait until 36!!! You have so much time to meet so many men who will shower you with love, gifts and promise you the world. Try shopping around, kind of like for a car, to see which one's the best. Don't settle for the first one on the lot!
2006-12-18 15:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by KillerKat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Many people will think you are too young. However, I got married when I was 16 to a man, who I met, got engaged and married all in 4 months. We were together for 23 glorious years, until he passed away at an early age of 45. I would not trade a second of all the years that we were together. Only your heart really knows, how much you love him. Despite, what everyone else thinks. Good Luck and all the best to you..from someone who knows. Cathy
2006-12-18 15:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by CathyG 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No no no. You are a kid. Why get married? DOn't you have aspirations to travel, get an education etc? If you loved him and it was meant to be you would have done it already. Something tells me you are not ready or ready with him. As a 37 yr. old woman who got married at 27 I am very grateful for having dated so long and dated different people. I traveled, got a good education and am able to stand on my own two feet. I am married now 10 years with 2 girls and I wouldn't change a thing. If he loves youhe'll wait 5 yrs. Only people in Arkansas get married that young? DOn't be stupid.
2006-12-18 15:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16. Not too young. There isn't an age limit on engagements, only on marriage (which should be lowered in EVERY state). My wife and I got engaged at 15 and I have known people that were engaged even younger.
2006-12-18 15:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by kveldulf_gondlir 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break it to you.. everyone is in love and ready to give up the big V when they are 16...
Dont lock yourself down at this young age.. I am 26 - have been with "the one" 4 different times now and only now am I confident that I ahve truly found the one...
At age 16 you are really still just a kid - there is so much to learn and experience before you resign yourself to being a housewife....
Good luck with it all!
2006-12-18 15:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by AndyLoops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sixteen and engaged? You're not of legal age to make this kind of commitment. Plus, you're setting yourself up for total failure and will miss the best years of your life. You have no idea about life or what you want for the rest of your life when you're 16. Cool your jets and wait until you're in your mid 20's .. you'll be wondering why you were crazy enough to even CONSIDER marriage at such a young age !!!
2006-12-19 11:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Bill P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think thats too early
my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and eight months and have been talking about getting married since about six months he jsut turned 16 and ill be 16 in april
our parents think we ll be together and thinks we are good together but we wont actually get married until we graduate at least from high school through the time we have been together i dont feel like ive missed out on anything i feel like ive experience more than i would otherwise
even though youre engaged it doesnt mean you have to get married right away
2006-12-19 02:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by Meredith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋