Ok, so I have 2 cats, one is a 1 year old fixed female and the other is a 7 month old female not fixed yet. We just rescued a 5 year old male fixed declawed sweet boy. My older female is just keeping her distance but my young girl is taunting him and growling and hissing. She is being very mean and I don't know how to make them be friends. The two females are best buddies. What do I do??
2006-12-18 14:58:45 · 12 answers · asked by jt0915 2 in Pets ➔ Cats
they will evenually grow to like each other i have for cats and none came at the same time all from different litters and all different ages. They all get a long great but at one time they didn't just let the do it in their own time, don't rush it
2006-12-18 15:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by bambii_27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I have six cats and only two of my cats came from the same place/same litter. However, all of them are fixed.
My first suggestion to you is get the one fixed. It can help. That female is at an age where she can start going into heat (if she hasn't already) and that can be part of the problem.
Second, when brining a new animal into the house the original animals have to let the new one know where they stand in the "pecking" order. Sadly, if this is happening, you have to let them be to a point. Don't let them hurt each other, but let them have their little arguments. Also, during this, make sure you reasure the one that is getting picked on and make sure the others know you still love them just as much as before.
You could also be having some jelousy issues. Try to make time to spend with each cat alone. Do something with them that they love.
Sadly this problem might not go away. In my house I have this situation. I have two females that won't give up alpha female. This has caused alot of chaos in my house and I am now having to look for a new home for the one. The problem is with two of my females, but it is also involving the rest of the pack. They have choosen which one is the "boss" and get on the other one since she will not back off. I don't think you will have this problem though. Your new female is a kitten and with time she should realize her place in your home.
Just give it some time, but also be prepared for the problem not going away. Your kitten has to realize that she doesn't rule the roost.
2006-12-18 15:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by idgerow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unlike dogs, cats are not pack animals. They do not subscribe to the philosophy of, "the more the merrier."
Peace in your family may depend on space. If you are trying to keep three cats in an apt. or small house you'll probably always have some squabbling. The young one will probably always bedevil your older male whenever she can get away with it.
Cats are notoriously hard to train. If they fight tooth and nail (not just hissing and occassionally slapping) you might want to give a territory to each. For example, one gets the bedroom and one the front room. Also, you might try keeping their food separated. Feed the younger one across the room from the older so they do not fight over dinner, water or the litter box.
good luck!
2006-12-18 15:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may never be best friends, but the aggressive behavior probably will stop after the girl gets used to the new boy's smells, etc. I have tried this and it seems to work: Clean your hands very thoroughly, then rub them on the temples (where the hair is thin) of the aggressor cat and wipe the scent from those glands onto the head of the new kid, so that he smells like her.
I have never known cats living in such a small group not eventually to get along, so, be patient and she should come to realize that he is not a threat.
2006-12-18 15:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by Pythonette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most wild cats are solitary in nature (with a few notable exceptions like lions) so they tend to shun new critters that come into their "territory".
Don't get onto either one of them if they get "crabby" with the other as they are just trying to establish a heirarchy. This is vital to tell each of them where they stand in the grand scheme. They will work it out on their own. Give it a full month and I do mean a full month before you decide anything.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-18 15:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Shamanistic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the male is intimidated because he cannot claw climb or fight well. The yout cat senses this. The older does not care. Give all of them extra huggs wothout favoritism...usually chills them out. Scatter the food in 5-6 trays so all can eat without face full of claws. Poor male cannot fight back
2006-12-18 15:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by acct10132002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a little time, Cats warm up to each other, they reject changes, but they'll get used to it. The other cats may be jealous of him, make sure you don't change the way you treat your other cats. It also could be that the female cats are afriad of him. you should have him fixed.
2006-12-18 15:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by blonde_bubbles89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME and separation but able to smell and see each other until u can finally put them together. rub your cats fur with a soft rag or towel and than rub thier scent onto the new cat. also heard a drop of vanilla on each of thier noses works to.
2006-12-18 15:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by petloverlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult if they didn't grow up together. They'll adjust but not likely be friends. Make sure they have their own bowls and litter boxes. Give equal attention and stop any fighting with a reprimand.
2006-12-18 15:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
not fixed cats have serious issues. my cat used to be such a beotch until we got her spayed, and she got really sweet and calmed down a ton. once you get her spayed (which you need to do soon) it will be better, especcially since the new cat is male.
2006-12-18 15:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋