okay so about 10 weeks ago i found out my bf cheated on me with his ex.......he said hed felt horrible and started crying....but now weve had sex 4 or 5 times since then because i hold out on him......he doesnt look at me or even kiss me anymore while having sex......i feel so cheap when i have sex with him because of that.....what do you think is he still cheating??
2006-12-18 14:54:59 · 17 answers · asked by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just because he no longer does those things anymore, it does not mean still cheating, it may mean that he jut feels his shame when he looks at you, & I think that he may still want to talk about it. It may take a while for him to get the way he used to be, I would feel shame too, if i were him, then again it could mean that he may be, either way I think that if you talk to him, & let him know how you are feeling, things may change back, or at least you may get an answer. GOOD LUCK TO YOU SWEETIE!
2006-12-18 15:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by sis_jk27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The crying part was fake. It was gilt, he know he did wrong so to make u feel sorry for him he turned on the waterworks. And thats also the reason he can't look u in the eyes or kiss u because he know he did wrong .
U really need to figure out what ur gonna do, if u keep giving him sex it's only gonna make him start to feel like he can do it again. I mean if u forgive him for it the 1st time u will do it again( when he starts to cry. Be very careful to it he's having sexc with the ex then u should have him use a condom, who knows what he passing to u and her( that how std spreads)
Hold out more and let him know that he can't just get away with cheating behind and those tears are a dime a dozen. Next time he cry laugh or say this " Sweetie I can cry too but I refuse to waste the water "
I bet u anything those tears were fake and he did it to get his way with u. I mean tell me this, how did u find out he cheated did he tell u
2006-12-18 15:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who cheats always has the potential to cheat again... Its difficult to regain your trust after a bout with infidelity. If he can't look at you and be "with you" when you are performing that most intimate of acts, its like saying that he's not interested or doesn't really want this second chance that you have graciously afforded him.
Its impossible to say whether or not he is still cheating, but he is not mentally in the here and now of your relationship. Cut your losses and move on. I can only wish you luck, when truly you need strength. Him, he needs a lot, but hopefully he'll at least find regret for the wrongs he is doing today, tomorrow. Bye.
2006-12-18 15:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by John N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you are in a problematic satiation. You may just going through a rough patch and may be able to fix things if u really want to be with this man,
However,
no relationship is worth having you feel badly about yourself and maybe you just need to take a break so the both of you can figure things out for yourselves.
Good Luck
2006-12-18 15:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about HIM it is about you. Who cares if he is cheating the question is why are you staying with someone that makes you feel cheap. You are worth so much more than feeling like that from a loser who cheated on you. You have to leave immediately.With time you will heal. one day at a time. There are many good guys out there. Get one!
2006-12-18 15:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by sandiiiiii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may feel really bad for cheating on you and he can't look you in the eye. You might be sending out vibes of anger or resentment that you aren't even aware of. OR, he could be pretending that you are someone else and is just using you for a sexual surrogate. Anyway, if you are that uncertain that you came here to ask us about this, deep down you probably won't be able to get over it. Sounds to me like it's really bothering you. Maybe you should move on...
2006-12-18 15:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be cheating, but i'm not sure. but besides that, things aren't the same with you two nor does it seem like it ever will be the same again. you're still young. move on and be with a guy that will truly love you, respect you, appreciate you and treat you the way you should be treated. he is no good for you and seems like he's just using you now. you seriously deserve so much better. it would be incredibly unhealthy for you to stay in this relationship.
2006-12-18 15:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot say if he is cheating or not just because he is not interested in sex but it can be that he has lost interest in you. I will never cheat or cross the line on my woman as long as I care for her feelings.
2006-12-18 22:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by Flirtatious Wiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be still cheating with you on with his ex.. Or he could be cheating with another girl.. Best Wishes!!
I know how you feel though..
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Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!!
2006-12-18 15:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by underwood80@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just extremely guilt-ridden, also, you need to think about how he acted before you found out he was cheating on you. Did he act like this when you had sex before you found out? Ask yourself these questions and keep and eye on his behaivour. good luck!!! :)
2006-12-18 14:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by jemm4president 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋