My child is more reserved and I am a free spirit. She is often in embarassed by me in public and she is only 7

Question

How would you handle this? She lashes out at me for saying or doing things that she thinks are funny when we are alone....

Answer 1

LOL...I remember those days. Just tell her that you love HER unconditionally just the way she is, and that SHE should fell the same about you. She isn't going to change you and you don't WANT to change the person she is...BTW she WILL get over the emabarassments...and wind up just like you LOL

Answer 2

I'd listen to her without reservation or judgement. Perhaps come to some understanding with her. There's nothing wrong with her being reserved. Maybe just be more encouraging of her when you see her doing positive things too.

I'm not quite sure what you're saying. First sentence you say she's embarassed by you in public and the last you say she gets angry when doing things alone.

Answer 3

If you are really embarassing her then you should tone it down, Mom. You are a mom first, a free spirit second. Unless she is just being over dramatic and anything you would do would be an embarrassement. If that is the case, she needs to just get over it. Kind of like sexual harassment issues, "what would a reasonable person think of this or that action?"

Answer 4

Just sit down and ask her what specific things might embarass her. Tell her you'll try not to, but sometimes it's just your personality and you can't help it. It actually might be good for her that you're so outgoing. It will keep her from becoming too shy and unsociable. Since she's only seven she doesn't need a lot of social time, but later it will affect things if she doesn't speak up.

Answer 5

There are some rules we have to establish since our kids are walking and talking. Did she learned this behavior from a relative like your parents, her dad or her dad's parents? May be you can start from here. A little reserve isn't bad, but is like everything, all the ends are bad. You most tech her her to learn happy mediums. Perhaps you are the adult in here and who settle the rules of the game, not her.

Answer 6

She's only 7 years old, how does she know anything about social decorum and embarrassment?! Besides, you are the mom, and you need to teach her not to care about what others think and how to be herself instead of being like everyone else!!

Answer 7

She's just feeling the pressures of social decorum. Dial it back a bit in public if she is really embarrassed, my goofy husband and I have had to in order to keep our two teenaged daughters from literally dying in public. She'll come out of it when she is a little older and can appreciate her non-conventional mom.

Answer 8

That's exactly like me and my Mom. She mostly just laughed it off or told me to loosen up. I'd tell her you won't put up with her being rude or cruel to you and at the same time you'll try to think about how she feels when you are out together and you do something wild n' crazy. My mom mostly just told me no one was listening or watching and that I was flattering myself that I thought anyone was.

Answer 9

Talk to her. Ask her why she's embarassed about it when your in public when she laughs about it when your alone. Just speak with her let her know it bothers you. And listen to her answers ok and speak with eatch other don't agure.

Answer 10

Hey, who's the parent here? Let your child know that kind of backtalk is not ok. She can learn to live with her embarrassment. You don't want to raise a control freak who expects everyone to do only what she would do.

You 12-year-olds can give me all the thumbs down you want. When this Mom is still taking guff from the kid as a teenager, on drugs and pimping herself, she'll wish she had established the boundaries earlier.