I did not expect to get an extravegant gift, or a lot of money. just a thought. both of my cousins are over 20 and have no exspensis and have good jobs. I would have felt more loved if i got a real card, not one from a box, even if it was empty. am i still wrong?
2006-12-18 14:44:48 · 23 answers · asked by sarajane 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Someone wise once told me, "expectations are resentments waiting to happen". I do think you are mistaken in this instance. This is a great opportunity to be gracious and just simply resign yourself to the fact that your family are not nearly as delightful and thoughtful as you are. Not everyone has such emotional intelligence. Try not to let it hurt your feelings. It may help you feel better if you do a good deed for someone. When I have been wronged, it makes me feel better to do something very nice for someone else. It takes the focus off self pity.
2006-12-18 14:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by brandihoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's thoughtful for them to have sent a card at all. You shouldn't be mad but I understand you might feel a little hurt but that's an issue you have. There's no way for them to know that you are that sensitive about what type of card you get unless you tell people. Once you start demanding a 'real' card over one from a box, than you start to look like the person who's got the problem. Don't be so hard on people. I don't send cards at all so just be glad your cousins made any effort at all.
2006-12-18 14:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by Pico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I sent all of my cousins, aunts and uncles and even my parents the same card from a box of cards. It is the thought that counts. Do they treat you good throughout the year? Are they there for you when you need them? One day throughout the whole year does not define whether or not they love you or not. I am sure they love you very much.
2006-12-18 14:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jolene R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is about giving without expecting to recieve. You should never expect to recieve anything from other people at all. Its not a trade day. Gifts do not equal love. They are also not your direct family so you are extending your christmas gift giving too far any way.
2006-12-18 14:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not expressed in the value of the gift or if you get a gift. Have your cousins been treating you nicely, if yes, thats all that matters.
2006-12-18 14:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying. However, they took the time to send you a card. They did not have to, it's the thought that counts, it does not matter if they purchased a box of cards or a single card to send you.
All in all...........they still showed you they love you by sending you a card.
2006-12-18 14:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no u really shouldn't be mad about your Christmas gifts my mom always told me that u should always be thankful 4 what u get. 'cause some people don't even get a penny or get to see a family for Christmas.
2006-12-18 15:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One should be thankful and gracious when one receives any type of gift. They took the time to give you a card and money, you should be thankful for that.
2006-12-18 14:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh give me a break ... why couldn't it be one from a box? Box cards are the best way to buy them.
I have NEVER EVER received a Christmas card, not to mention a gift, from any of my cousins.
2006-12-18 14:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you did not expect an extravagant gift, then why are you complaining about box cards?
2006-12-19 02:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋