Sorry I have another question :)
Me(19) and my boyfriend(20) have been dating for 2 years and lately he has been bothering me alot about having sex with him and I am just wondering if maybe I should just have sex with him, I mean he has waited for 2 years without bothering me.
I truly don't know what to do because I love him and I don't want him to break up with me or cheat on me :(
Other Details:
-I am a virgin(Waiting till marriage) and he is not
2006-12-18 14:43:50 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Will he dump me after we have sex ???
2006-12-18 14:44:31 · update #1
If you want to wait, wait.
Put it this way. You probably won't be lying in bed at your honeymoon thinking "you know, I wish I'd done Whatsisname back then."
You likely would think "you know, I'm glad I didn't do Whatsisname."
Good luck in your decision; I hope you stick to your guns.
2006-12-18 14:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why you guys are not engaged now? Neither of you are too young to make that sort of comittment; and two years is not too short a time period in which to decide if you are right for one another.
If keeping your virginity until marriage is important to you - this is a question you have to answer to yourself - then you should not have sex yet.
You should discuss this with him. Talk about birth control - will he take responsibility, or will you? How many kids would you like to have? Any? Do you want them raised in a particular religious tradition? How do you want to handle financies? Jointly? Or keep them separate and split up the bills? Can you bear to spend Christmas away from your family? Can he? How dedicated are you both to making your relationship work, to finding common ground even when you disagree?
These are the sort of questions you two should be talking over. You should not let sex be the issue that decides whether you two get married; or even if you should take your unmarried relationship to the next level.
2006-12-18 14:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I know you love him, but don't make this mistake. If he truly loves you, he won't pressure you about it. Tell him you are waiting until marriage, and tell him how much this means to you to stay a virgin. Think about it, you only give it away once, and honestly, your virginity and body is one of the most important parts of your integrity. Don't let him take that away from you unless YOU want to give that up.
Having sex with a guy won't keep them from breaking up with you, no matter what you've come to believe. If he would cheat on you simply because you are a strong willed woman who wants to keep that sacred part of yourself holy and save it for a time when you feel comfortable, then maybe he's not the right guy. You need someone who respects you as a human, not as a pleasure device. Someone who would spend all of their lives with you and never have sex. Someone who loves you that much is truly the right one.
2006-12-18 14:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, If he has to pressure your into having sex with him then he may not be the right guy for you. If he respects and loves you he would wait and respect your personal choice and decision. You shouldn't have to change yourself for any man. But I think you should do what is best for yourself and no one else, because you will have to live with you decision, be safe and good luck. First, wonder if this is the guy you can picture yourself with 2 more years from now. Respect your body and respect you moral and beliefs. Have sex when you are truly ready, and don't base it upon anyone else opinion and needs. Good luck, be safe, and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-18 14:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who has he been with first offl? Why can't he wait? I mean with STD's today you should wait. HPV doesn't affect men normally but for women it can cause sterility. The vaccine only helps with 6 of the strains, there are around a 100 strains. Getting pregnant is the least and most of your worries when it comes to sex before marriage. And condoms don't protect against HPV. www.pamstenzel.com
Don't lower your standards because he can't wait. If he truly loves you he will wait.
2006-12-18 14:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by WINGS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and respects you he will not push you into having sex. He should respect your values and wishes. You will be sorry if you give into him. Don't let him take away something you have fought so hard to keep. Staying pure until marriage is such a wonderful thing and you should be commended for your values, not made to feel guilty about them. I applaud you. To bad more women were not like you. If he leaves you because of this then he is not the man that was meant to be a part of your life. Good luck and stay strong!
2006-12-18 14:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sally B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look if he really loves you the way he says he does then he can wait till you guys get married. But if he brakes up with you or cheats on you just because you wont give him sex then why be with him at all. You don't deserve being with you if he makes you feel like you have to give sex sit and talk to him tell him you want to wait till mariage tell you him that you're just not ready. If he loves you he'll agree to wait untill you're ready.
2006-12-18 14:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by ¤мαяînзz Gîяℓ¤ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
keep reminding him of your beliefs and do not settle for less!! If he truely loves you, he will wait once you are married!!! If you have sex with him, you will be so unhappy and full of regret!!! Sex should be a joyous occasion between 2 people that love each other.... you will not have this if you do it before marriage!!! Don't put yourself in this situation!!!! If he dumps you, well at least you still have your precious gift to give to the man that will one day say "I do" to you!!! And yes, he will dump you once you have sex...how do I know? he knows your beliefs...if he truely loved you, he would not be putting you thru this and wait until he married you!!!
2006-12-18 14:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep with him just because you feel pressured. A real guy will love you no matter what and will RESPECT YOU even if you aren't comfortable with it right now. Sex complicates things and it's like that pringles commercial.. "once you pop you can't stop". It's true. Guys have a sex drive and once won't be enough. After you have sex with somebody, you feel a different bond with them and it changes things, and if you break up (which I hope you don't) it makes it all that much harder. Please think deep and hard before you do anything.
2006-12-18 14:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by HiL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been together for 2 years and did nothing.. Thats kool.. He should beable to respect you and wait till marriage like you want.. Your first time should be special to you.. Don't do something you don't want to do.. Cause you might regret it in the future.. Listen to your heart and soul.. They will give you the right answers..
Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!!
2006-12-18 14:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by underwood80@verizon.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably will some guys just want sex continue to wait til you are married. It will be worth the wait and it will be special God is very pleased with you don't do it to keep a man or to not let him cheat because a good man will wait until you are married your wishes not his selfish ways
2006-12-18 14:48:32 · answer #11 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋