I've known him for almost a year. He was very upfront about his children and I respect that. I've always been against dating any guys with kids because I know how selfish I can be, I want all the attention on me and if there's a kid running around that won't be possible, and I've expressed this to him.
He's starting to bring me around his kids more and it scares me. I swear the youngest snickers at me! lol. Like me and him will be on the couch not touching at all (I do respect his chidren by not touching or kissing) and his 2 year old will come and just start kissing and hugging all over him, out the blue, which is totally fine. His dad tells me that he's never done that before and that this is his kids way of showing me he is #1!
Should I lower my standards to date him? His kid is threaten by me, is this healthy? I know there will be alot of confusion getting me broken in with the kids, should I back off? I dont to break up a happy home. Help!!!!
2006-12-18 14:40:18 · 8 answers · asked by dianahb2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hello,don't worry every thing will fall in place it just take time if you think that you two have a good relationship you should hang on . I am a man 37 years old i got together with a women when I was 23years old with two boys at first it was very hard but now those boy are my kids or at least I love them like if they are and I know they love me to so relaxes it takes time.
2006-12-18 14:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by David Perez 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 11:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by lurette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What his kid is doing is normal. If you like him or even love him I would stick it out. Your not going to break up his happy home either. They will have to get used to you as well as you to them. Let me put it this way at least they are little and not teenagers, I have two of them in a blended family and one of them tried to break him and I up. Trust me 2 year olds are nothing to worry about. I hope that helps, Good luck!!
2006-12-18 14:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off your standards are pretty low if you always have to be the center of attention in a situation like this. My advice is move on you could never commit to him and accept his kids like he deserves and at some point the kids would get attached to you when they really need someone who can love them back. I dont mean to be harsh but this is a really important situation and one you need to avoid.
2006-12-18 14:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is normal for children to feel threatened by person they don't know. If he is bringing his kids around you that means he trusts you and he may want to get more serious. If you like his kids then go for him, however if you don't then I wouldn't get involved or at least talk to him about it. I myself have a child and I don't really want to get involved with any one who hasn't been in a serious relationship. kids don't bother me as long as they aren't straight up brats.
2006-12-18 14:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by WINGS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, take it from me, don't date him. 24 is much too young having two kids and a broken marriage to boot. Wayyyy too much baggage. I dated a guy in a similiar situation and the kids never took to me despite the fact that I am good with kids.
2006-12-18 14:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to be serious with the man you should write all of the reasons that you should be with him and then write down all of the reasons that you should not. Weigh it out and be prepared to make the decision. If you let it go with out being decisive you will make a mistake!
2006-12-18 14:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lower your standards? hell, there are tons of women younger than 24 with kids... i wonder what response i would get if i said i didn't want to lower my standards to date any females with kids!! sounds like a double standard to me
i understand it's scary dating someone with kids though, just saying
2006-12-18 14:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by painfully_average 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋