dont answer "cuz it's not attractive" ? ok - why? im curious why it is not attractive.
2006-12-18 14:31:42 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been desperate before, and from what I saw was that people didn't want that because I was just lonely and looking for affection. People look for confidence in a person, not overly confident like some prick, but someone who at least has enough guts to take the initiative on a situation. Being desperate is usually linked to being shy, but you know, I'm a shy person, but I don't grieve about it, I even enjoy it. There is a difference from being desperate and shy, and to tell you the truth, being shy is alot more attractive, but its not the most attractive thing. People(in general) look at movies and magazines and see "perfect people" and what they don't see in these people is shyness or them desperate for attention/affection. Hopefully you can seem more shy rather than desperate, if you are feeling as if you're desperate right now.
2006-12-18 14:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by wizard of stealth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there's no element of 'chase'. It's no fun when the person doesn't have to work for it. That's why playing a little 'hard to get' can SOMETIMES be beneficial. It can also be a turnoff if that person seriously doesn't have any feelings for the other person at all, and never would b/c of personal likes and dislikes.
If you think this other person could like you, but is turned off by your eagerness... try laying off. Just act as if you had no interest besides being friends with this person. This could help that person get to know YOU, and like you for who you are first, as friends... and then perhaps they could become interested in more. Good luck.
2006-12-18 22:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by Brooke B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the actual fact of being desperate that's a turn off. It's the things some of us do; sometimes without even realizing that we do them, that set off the alarm.
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2006-12-18 22:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by Freddie Alva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unatractive because people assume that if your desperate you have a low self esteme. They seem to be needy, but are unable to find what they truely want so they are willing to settle for what they immidiately get, even if they could do better. I think it's a turnoff because when I meet someone I want them to like me because of who I am not because it's what they can do at the moment. if you are desperate and settling it's hard to tell if you truely attracked to me, or just want someone, anyone for that matter. That's what I think.
2006-12-18 22:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way:
A thing that you cannot have is much more desireable than something you could have any time you want. Eggs benedict or scrambled eggs? Chicken Sandwich or Duck L'Orange?
Something that is too easy or too common is easy to pass up. A desperate person seems like they will always be there. They have devalued themselves by being desperate.
2006-12-18 22:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by John N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desperation is associated with abandonment, betrayed, and loneliness. None of those things makes anyone want to be around a person much less in a relationship with them because it will be such a challenge to try and keep their spirits up and keep them from becoming depressed. A REALLY good person would though...
2006-12-18 22:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's boring. If someone is ALWAYS available or willing to do EVERYTHING you want to do--you feel like there everything is predicable. Life is about taking chances. There is a big difference between being reliable and dependable and someone who agrees with everything you say because they want you to like them. Having self confidence is what makes you attractive to the other person.
2006-12-18 22:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you enjoy a bum begging you for money? Or do you pity them and throw them a nickle? Human nature is to have at least a little bit of a challenge. We are animal like when it comes to finding a mate. The easiest choice you will never respect as much as the one that gives you a fight!
2006-12-18 22:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by dfgrace22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody who's desperate seems pathetic, lonely, unpopular, unappealing to the opposite sex, weird, overwhelming and a bit of a loser. None of these are awesome features that people want in a partner.
2006-12-18 22:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by shortcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who you ask. Some people are attracted to people who are "desperate." But, more often than not, it's much more interesting to try and get someone who seems unattainable - it's our human nature to want what we can't or don't have.
2006-12-18 22:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋