My son has ADHD , ODD , and PDD among other things . i am having a real hard time with him right now. he will not listen to me for anything. He is being rude , defiant , throwing temper tantrums etc... no one wants to come around us because life has gotten so chaotic. He has no respect for me or other authority. He keeps getting kicked out of school. We have help on the way , a counciling service in home and psyc doctor and so on. He has been like this mildly for years but the last few weeks have been a living hell. I love my son with all my heart and soul , but this has taken a toll on the entire family. Does anyone have any suggestions? I am lost. I have tried everything i can imagine and nothing is getting through to him.HELP!!
2006-12-18 14:30:27 · 9 answers · asked by brmj41975 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well comming from a home that i had two brothers that were both severly adhd odd and had bipolar and explosive disorder it is a really tough circumstance and i can tell you i understand your pain.......one thing i can recommend is that you have him committed to an inpatient facility where they can monitor his behaviors and give him a new psych evaluation, it could just be that if he is on any meds that he needs a new dosage or maybe hes on the wrong ones.....thats one i seen alot......also i know the doctors sometimes dont fully believe what you are going through so an inpatient thing helps them to understand better......i really know how hard that will be having to take your son and leave him somewhere but that may be the answer.....i wish you all the luck i can and i hope you and your son find peace im sorry you also have to go through something like that i hope this helps and i hope knowing that others are going through the same thing helps too you are not alone
2006-12-18 14:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what state you are from, but some states allow for a parent to call the school and ask for a coordinated service plan meeting. That would be a meeting where the counselor from the school (and possibly the principal), you, and any mental health professionals that work with your child would get together and help you come up with other services that would help you to support your child. In some states Family Services staff are invited (they are not there to take away your child; they are there to help think through other supports that will help you to keep your child at home so don't worry if they are invited).
A lot of families in your same situation have benefited tremendously from these meetings.
2006-12-20 11:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he has any kind of attention deficit, then his atetnion span is short. That being the case, he's not able to easily listen to anyone, for longer than his attenton span allows. There are medicines for them problems. But you could cut everything you want to say to him, in pieces, so to speak. For example, if his attetnion span is only 5 minutes, and what you say to him is perhaps 20 minutes, cut it into 5 five minute statements. You could also pray and or get him a prescription
2006-12-18 15:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i read this i thought it was my wife wrote it. i am sorry you have this situation. it took us 10 years to get anywhere with the authorities. we have just in the last two month allowed him to have medication its helping a bit but we still have all the same things going on but in smaller doses. But at this point i must say we have found that where we have had this abuse from our son all these years it may not be all him. you may find that you need help too to break some of the ways and barriers you have. please don't take that like i am saying you are in the wrong because i am not i am just saying what we have found with our situation.
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2006-12-18 14:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by PETER J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 05:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what kind of treatments you have pursued, but perhaps do some research on Occupational or Physical therapists specializing in sensory integration. Good luck!
2006-12-18 14:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get offended, but, the whole ADHD thing is a bunch of crap! All that pill does is make him not hyper and not active anymore. And not to mention it makes you not want to eat. Maybe he doesn't like the fact that he has "ADHD". Also, 13 yr old boys tend to get a little rough with their parents. Trust me, I remember doing it. You'll just need to give him a little bit of space, and let him do a little bit of his own things. As kids get older and in their teen years, they don't want parents holding their hands down the whole path of life. You need to start making priveliges, give him a little more freedom each year as he gets older. Also, there could be a girl at school in his life and maybe she doesnt like him back. Who knows? You should talk to him
2006-12-18 14:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by brown eyed gurl 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
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2006-12-19 14:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. It sounds like you have really reached your limit. What if you tried positive reinforcement instead of negative?
2006-12-18 14:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by The Pope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋