What does age have to do with it?

Question

Went to my high school today, and they had a fundraiser for one of my old teachers who is sick. They were selling candy bars for a dollar, so I gave 20 dollars for one. Then I decided that I would give another 100 dollars too, just because I like the teacher very much and she honestly means the world to me. The guy in charge didn't take my money straight off--asked me if my mother knew I was giving that much money--I said that it's my own money--I sorted garbage for a month for that money, and I can do whatever I want with it. He said okay but told me to think about it. I said I didn't want to think about it--I knew what I was doing. He made me go think about it for 2 hours but I made him take the money for my teacher eventually. I'm more than happy to give it, but I do feel bad a little, because I was just trying to do something nice, and I was hassled about it. Was it because of my age or because everyone knows I'm poor? Even so, is that right?

Answer 1

I think it was a very nice gesture, don't worry about what anyone else thinks. It was your money and you can do with it what you want. I like a person with a mind of their own and knows what they want. You will go far and succeed in life. I would be honored to have you for my former student, not because of the money but because you have true compassion.
good luck and Merry Christmas

Answer 2

For whatever the reason the guy in charge still did the right thing in making sure that you understood what you were giving up. He probably wanted to be certain that you hadnt been given some spending money by your parents and didnt understand that $120 is a lot of money. Even though you knew what you were doing, he still had an obligation to make sure as there are a lot of school kids who dont know the value of money. He obviously didnt know you personally to realise that you only wanted to do a nice deed and it was your money to do with what you wanted. I am sure he didnt mean to make you feel less because of it. And also sure he didnt mean to hassle you. He was just looking out for you, but from your position it just didnt seem that way.

Answer 3

Don't let him get to you. I was once stopped for trying to donate 20 dollars for a little boy who had been in a car accident. My school was trying to do a fundraiser (I think he was a sibling of a student) and the teacher tried to give me change, until I assured her I knew how much I was giving and that I meant it.

He might have been trying to prevent you from donating too much and leaving yourself short, or that you had stolen it, or he didn't want anyone to feel pressured to donate more. However, it is your money, and you have every right to do what you want with it.

We need more caring people like you.

Answer 4

This person was trying to assume that you don't have the ability or "years" to make such a decision. Although in one way it was nice of him to make sure you wanted to give what you did; I'm sure you make it very clear that the money was yours and it was your choice. Good for you for doing something for someone else during the holidays especially when everyone wants stuff for themselves. You gave the gift of hope and love, and that is the best gift anyone could ever give. Seems to me that you know the true meaning of Christmas... don't you DARE feel badly about doing something good for someone else - it was a totally excellent gesture and I hope it helps your past teacher whatever their ailment..

Merry Christmas!!

Answer 5

He just knew that when someone your age has that much money, it was hard to come by. He didn't want you to do something you may regret later, because you were feeling very generous at that moment. You have to admit, most people of ANY age, don't give that much to a cause like that. He just wanted you to think that decision through before you did it.

Answer 6

That was a very nice gesture, to be generous, impulsiveness is nothing to do with age and means of living, it is with out thinking of doing things. the guy incharge is not hassling you, He is trying to help you.The candy bar is one for a dollar, but you pay $20.00 for one and on top of that you are giving a $100.00 your hard earn money. That sounds you are not giving a chance for the others to contribute what they can afford,conciously you are trying to show of, of course you can do what ever of your money why don't you spent for your own needs. Have you heard of charity begins at home . The home is your self,the primary to help is you. You gave $120.00 what did you get back ?being broke and and hatred of others. For trying to outdone the others.If a family w/ten children have no where to live, are you going to give your house out of pity, to them and live on the street and be a homeless? If your answer on that is yes . You need help.

Answer 7

I would guess that it was a combination of your age and the stereotype of young people being materialistic and self-absorbed. In other words, he was just shocked that you wanted to donate that much money rather than go out and buy the next-big-whatever-it-is that everyone simply must have to be "cool."

I wouldn't worry about it. If it happens again simply state your reasons and hand them the money. It is, after all, your money to do with as you please.

Answer 8

I wouldn't worry about it too much. I'm sure the guy only was trying to make sure you weren't blowing money off. It is frustrating to be treated like a child, but hey! you helped somebody out, right? That should make you feel good.

Answer 9

You can always find someone who will not like something you do.

Sometimes they pop right out and mess with you. Sometimes they just lurk and gossip about you.

If you made this move from your heart that is all that truly matters. Giving to others brings wonderful gifts in our own lives.

It is wonderful you have learned this at an early age.

best,

cez

Answer 10

i think that u did th right thig by giving the money away for the teacher, the guy probobly just wasnt expecting 100$ from some1, no1s usaly that nice, but u were, so b proud for ur self