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Christmas and vocations are coming up, everyone should be happy and exited, right? Well not me. Things have been absolutely horrible lately and I'm feeling like crap. The last blow came when I realized that I failed two of my classes in college, which might delay my graduation. If I failed because I did not study, I could accept it as my fault. However, many things happened in my life that were out of my control ( that are too personal to discuss here), and I did try to do good to the best of my ability and still failed! This makes it even worse because I can't get a straight answer from academic advisors if I will be able to graduate or not! Now I get a whole month off college, and how am I supposed to enjoy it when all I'm thinking about are the problems I'm having?

2006-12-18 14:23:27 · 6 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Health Mental Health

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There is no easy way to answer this actually because even though the holidays are a season of happiness and giving there are still things in our lives that make them seem like they should just get on and be over with but for the sake of yourself and your family you have to find a reason to "believe" in the holidays again. Like you my family has gone through some major tragedy the last few months, my hubby was diagnosed with a very rare form of cancer and we found out today that he's starting his chemo tomorrow, yet through it all he has maintained a positive attitude, not for himself, but for our boys because they need to see that Christmas is NOT about the gifts it's about the family that we have. I know it may sound a bit wishy washy but it's so true and like you I was not thinking of the holidays until I went out and did something for someone else that had no connection to my family because by volunteering and by giving I realized that thinking of myself was not what the season is about, so in all actuality you need to put yourself to the side for a couple of days and enjoy the season with your loved ones. Try to maintain a positive attitude and all good things shall come to pass. If you can explain to your professors about having some personal issues then maybe they can give you some extra credit.
Best of luck with your studies and I hope that you are able to graduate on time and have yourself a very happy holiday season!

2006-12-18 14:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 2 · 0 0

I know in your mind that your problems are very important, but in the great scheme of the world they are not. Do everything you can to fix any situation you might be in, then leave it. Whether you are worrying about it or not, the result will be the same, so why worry. Fix it and leave it. Then, get your focus on others. There are a lot of hurting people during this holiday season. If you don't have the money to help, volunteer your time. Work in a soup kitchen, or check to see where you could be used at the Salvation Army. If you are looking at others, you are too busy to focus on yourself. Good luck.

2006-12-18 14:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 1 0

I feel really bad for you. I know someone in a similar position - a close family member. She just found out that she passed - barely. Is there any way you could email your instructors to find out if you passed? This is what she did. She did everything under her power to get her project done - worked 18 hours and didn't get it done in time. It was worth 20% of her mark. She's really bummed out. Here's something I do when something is really nagging at me and interfering with other stuff: I choose a time to worry and think about it. If it rears its ugly head before then, I will it back into its box. You do need to think about it at some point - it's only natural. But try really hard to enjoy what's ahead for yourself - seeing friends and family and try to force yourself to relax. Talk to those who care and they'll offer you sympathy. Later, try to talk to the guidance office and see if you can do something to bring up your grades because of your special circumstances. Good luck my friend.

2006-12-18 14:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

that's just it. you are thinking about all of your problems and you are letting the weight of all of them take control over your life for the time being. learn to have a positive outlook on life. start by looking outside in the morning and simply enjoy what you see, what you hear, etc. enjoy the sounds made in the kitchen when cooking things. enjoy the sounds and the smells of food cooking. be thankful for all that you have. this is only one thing that is bothering you right now. life is always going to have times when things don't seem so great, but it's all a matter of HOW you look at life.

2006-12-18 21:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0 0

Have a few drinks and relax your on break and everything will work itself out you will graduate eventually and delaying it isnt a bad thing trust me enjoy your vacation and enjoy being in school

2006-12-18 14:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

My mum kicked the bucket 9th Dec 2002 and my soccer team lost the Finals..it substitute into the worst Christmas each and every and it isn't the comparable :( NYE occasion at my abode 10 years in the past...i substitute into taking freshly cooked pizza's out of the oven yet i substitute into so inebriated that I dropped them on the floor, accompanied by using me falling on my butt interior the direction of the pizza mess on the floor and my hubby looking me giggling hysterically coz i couldnt upward push up!!

2016-10-18 11:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

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