Me(19) and my boyfriend(20) have been dating for 2 years and he has always been really sweet, but last week he kept bothering me about having sex with him and he won't stop, he bugs me about it every day, I don't want to break up with him but NO means NO.
Other Details:
-I am a virgin(Waiting till marriage) and he is not
-I really don't want to break up with him/I don't want him to break up with me:(
2006-12-18 14:22:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont know if he will but if he has a problem with that and doesnt respect your decisions, then he is truly not worth it. i know it may be hard but he is not worth it if he wants to break up with you because of that. and if thats what you want, dont change your mind just because you dont want him to break up with you or he convinced you to. believe me..never change for a guy. you need to be who you are and they need to love you for who you are not what you are so if he wants to have sex with you and you tell him your waiting till you get married and he doesnt like it, then he doesnt love you for who you are.
good luck with everything! and please remember..never change for a guy. be yourself! <3 lisa
2006-12-18 14:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by lisa_pisa26 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look , you are obviously in a relationship with a guy that doesnt care about sex before marriage or virginity. You should thank god this is happening now and not when u get married. This is what is called unequally yoked. I mean what will udo when teh discussion comes up? Just shy away from it? This is a very big thing that you believe in and he doesnt. Either he has to change his thinking or u 2 will always have trouble in that relationship Its kind of like a prostitute marrying a nice guy. Will he ever accept that fact that she is prostituting or will she change
2006-12-19 21:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you by keeping your morals, beliefs, and respecting yourself and your body. First, maybe you should tell your boyfriend that you want to remain a virgin until you are married. Don't feel pressure or force to loose your virginity too him, even if he says loves you, convince you or try to break up with you. He should respect your decision and not try to force you into doing anything that you don't want to do. Remember No does mean No. If he still don't understand then maybe you should breakup with him and find someone who truly respects and love you and your decision. Believe I know from experience because I' am a virgin too and my jerk of an ex-boyfriend was trying to pull the same thing, I broke up with him. Good luck and be safe.
2006-12-18 22:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cannot accept the fact that u don't want to have sex with him then he doesn't deserve u because it's not that many women or men out here who are a virgin so he should be happy but if not let him go and find some one who's beliefs are the same as yours
2006-12-18 22:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by jsxy695 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for sticking to your guns and not having sex just to satisfy someone eles's "hunger". Apparently sex is much more important to you both in different ways. So You're sexually incompatible already. If that is a deal breaker, then you should let him go. If you give in to him, you cheapen yourself and your values will mean nothing. I promise you that if you have sex with him, nothing will change in him, but you will be very different for the rest of your life.
2006-12-18 22:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly some of his male friends are pressuring him to have sex with you. Someone told me once that has long as you don't have intercourse that oral sex is ok. I'm not telling you it is, but you may be safe by having one without the other and keeping your promise to yourself. Do what is right for you. If he loves you,he will respect your wishes. If not there's alot of guys out there that will.
2006-12-18 22:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course keep say NO to him... A love marriage just like a gamble, virgin is your credit and his great deal.
Remember if this guy want this so much you better dump him, in future when you pregnant for his baby he will definetly have affair with other girls.
2006-12-18 22:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sweety21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats cool if you feel that way but for those of us who don't chances are it's not going to work out anyway thats a hell of a long time to wait for intercourse for guy that is really wanting it. He must really love you if he has waited that long. Give it up to him or let him go on with his life without you. Decide what is more important to you. your purity or your patient boyfriend
2006-12-18 22:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should respect the fact that you are waiting for a real commetment. If he breaks up with you for not having sex with him then he doesn't really love you for you, only for his own personal gain.
2006-12-18 22:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by Fuzzyglasses 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't comfortable doing it, then don't. If he can't accept that you want to wait till marriage, then he's not worth it, get away from him.
2006-12-18 22:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by tuna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋