What do I do about this. They came into our house and sort of brainwashed her. Really I think she did it for her boyfriend who was the mormon religion. I don't like it. I don't like when she talks about getting married because I am not a mormon so I will not be allowed to see it (you have to be mormon to attend a mormon wedding). Do I fight for her. I love her!!! What Do I Do? Please Help!
2006-12-18 14:17:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Two things. First, if you love her let make her own decisions. You may talk to her about how you feel, but she's not living her life for you. Also, the Mormon church is ALL about family so it's very doubtful that the church is trying to take her away from you. it almost sounds as if your being a bit selfish and possessive actually.
Second, Mormon weddings that are performed in "temples" are to marry a couple for "time and eternity", and that is the only place they can be done. Temples are sacred places that only "worthy" members can go into. That's why the actual ceremony you wouldn't be allowed to participate. The church is not purposefully try to keep non-member families from attending a wedding, it's just that only members can go in to those temples, that's it. Besides that, Mormon marriages can be preformed outside the temple for "time only" and any can attend. And all other festivities are wide open to anyone and everyone.
In the end, what's best for her? and what does she really want to do? Sorry but it's not about you, even if you are worried about her. Besides if you "fight" who are you going to fight with? Your sister? then you truly lost her because you don't trust her, and she'll know it.
2006-12-18 14:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Coool 4 · 11⤊ 1⤋
Slow down! Mormons are christians. They are not a cult. They believe in family. You are not loosing her. Although, if you act like a jerk and dont listen to her, and accept her for who she is, then you wont have a close relationship with her because she will feel like you dont listen. The momon church is a wonderful church. The reason why you cant attend a mormon wedding is because the temple is very sacred to them. Every mormon cant even attend the temple. they have to meet certain guide lines. (which by the way, anyone can do. its all about the choices we make, and if we follow the commandments) However, there is a room that you can go into the temple to wait for her though, and there will be people there that will sit and explain why certain things are done, and what she is doing. The temple grounds are beautiful, and can be fun to walk around while you wait too. It doesnt take very long. But, take it from someone who has been in the same situation with my family. I have had a temple wedding, and it was the most beautiful moment in my life. Please try to support your sister. If you give her a chance, maybe she can help you understand her a little better. You dont have to agree with her, and she doesnt have to agree with you. give her a chance, and let her find her own way in life. you just might be suprised what you find.
2006-12-19 12:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Harley 2 · 11⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sounds like you need more information. I really admire your loyalty to your sister. You know what, I didn't get to attend my sister's wedding either, and I am Mormon and was worthy to go to the temple, but I had not gone through for myself first, and I didn't want to go through just to attend her wedding. I did, however, get to see her and her husband just as soon as they walked out the temple doors, and we had a nice reception outdoors in the backyard (except it was hot for July). I am going to suggest that you rent the movie "Little Women," but not the newest version. Try the version from 1949 with June Allyson - so you can get an idea of what you are missing, as there is a scene which is similar to a temple marriage, although the characters in the movie are not Mormon. A sealing in a temple is a beautiful occasion attended by those with certain standards who have progressed in their obedience to certain commandments so that they can attend. I have since attended more sealings in the temple and am looking forward to the day I can be sealed in a temple as well. Please feel free to ask more questions about how temples work. But ask an active Mormon or the bishop or the missionaries. Have a happy day, and I send you a gummy bear.
2006-12-19 02:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie777 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It's your sister, so you should respect her. It is okay for you to share your concern, and to encourage her to be certain she is doing something for the right reason and has taken the proper steps to learn about it (and if you believe in prayer, that she has prayed about it). However, if this is something that she believes, and she is sure of, you should support her. Just because people believe differently doesn't mean they are bad. How many Mormons do you know that are bad people? It wouldn't be right for her to join just for her boyfriend, because in the end she will fall away and it will just cause a divide between them, and if she doesn't realize this you should let her know. Finally, if this IS something she believes, and she wants to marry this man in the temple, that is their choice, it is not you getting married. They will most likely have a reception or could even do a ring ceremony or something for those who are not of the religion. You should fight for what will make your sister happy, and that is not for you to decide. That being said, I'm sure she will value your thoughts (but remember, you must be respectful).
For the record: I'm mormon, but am married to an agnostic.
2006-12-19 19:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by straightup 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Everybody's got to find the religion (or lack of it) that works for them, and it seems mormonism is what works for your sister. I say, try to find common ground with her, she is still your sister. It sux that you can't go to her wedding, that's a mormon thing I don't understand. Keep in touch with her if at all possible, try not to take it personally that she's going this way, and be there for her if or when it doesn't work out, don't tell her I told you so.
2006-12-18 22:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Joni DaNerd 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
So you are jealous that she is spending time with "the religion" and not you??? So, really, you aren't bothered that she is a mormon, just that it is taking up her time?? and you are mad that you can't be to the wedding???
Get a grip for one thing and then get your own life.
Mormon religion is all about family. Is she choosing to not spend time with you for a certain reason - like maybe she wants to be around other mormons who share her same values? Who knows...try talking to her about it. Maybe if you actually looked into the religion, you would find out it is wonderful and not "weird" or "scary" or whatever like people like to spread.
Honestly. This is just silly.
2006-12-19 13:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I do not agree with the mormon religion, but you have to understand that it is your sister's life, not yours. Sometimes we just have to sit back and watch even when someone we love is doing something that we don't like. In the end, it is her decision, not yours. I would try to talk with her about it, but I wouldn't ruin your relationship over it!
2006-12-18 22:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by tiece20 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Your sister's life doesn't belong to you. What on earth would make you think a thing like that? Each of us has to find our own path. You wish your sister well with whatever decision she makes for herself unless she's mentally incapable or something. Mormons can't bar other denominations of Christians from attending their own family member's wedding, can they?? Are they such devout followers as to bodily remove people for what their beliefs are or aren't?? I should think not.
2006-12-18 22:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by TN Seeker 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to have to tell you this, but there is nothing you can do. If you fight you may lose her for good. People do notlike family butting in their spiritual and love life. Adults have to make their own choices.
2006-12-18 22:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with her & tell her you have some real concerns & would like to know if you could share them with her. That's the best you can do. Then let her make her choices & be there for her. {hug}
2006-12-18 22:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Nocine 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋