today i dropped boyfriend off work & another coworker just parked & waived to me and my son & continued to walk with my boyfriend to work. i have never seen her before; when i questioned him about who she was; it pissed him off & said "her name is barbara, do u need her ss # too?- this is getting pathetic" what is the deal?
2006-12-18 14:14:17 · 10 answers · asked by superduperdummy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How did you approach? Did you blow up and act as a Grand Inquisitor? Maybe he spouted off in anger b/c you have baggage that he isn't used to dealing with.
Honestly, he should have introduced you as a courtesy to you for being a couple. Since he did not, it does appear suspicious. However, you will know if your gut is telling you correctly when you meet the girl and talk with her for a few minutes. Skip the male and go straight to the female. (his anger is relative- but it is a red flag if you approached respectfully and then he just lit into you and got all defensive)
Yes you should ask just because you can if it is something you want to know. If you do not worry about that sort of stuff, then don't ask. Are you a check the cell phone and pockets kind of person? Does this female coworker look like you? Is she his true preference and you are the one he hooked up with just for something different?
Ask yourself these questions about him for yourself!!
Statistically, most relationships (and affairs) occur at the work site. And anyone who works knows it is more fun and you stay longer at a job if there is someone you connect with at the job.
2006-12-18 14:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah GB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like there is a lot more is going on here than you describe.
If this is all there is..you asking an innocent "who was that?" question with a nice tone and he biting your head off I would say that he is way over reacting.
But, if there is more going on - say, you frequently dog him about female friends or quiz him about what he's been doing and who he has been doing it with; then I might say, you need to lighten up.
Either way, it sounds like there are communication issues between you two. When you ask a simple question, he thinks you are jealous or nosey. When you see him talk to another woman you immediately suspect him of starting a new relationship.
I think you need to figure out what is going on in this relationship.
Good luck!
2006-12-18 22:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him? I'm guessing you do. I say he's probably just hurt that you asked him that. He's annoyed you would assume something about him being with another woman, and took it out harshly on you. Don't worry about it. If the subject comes up again or if he's acting suspicious, gently bring it up to him to see what's going on. For now, relax. It's probably just as you said: She's a female coworker... and that's it.
2006-12-18 22:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinks you are jealous. Have you gave him a reason? If not you just have to answer with a (the childs name) just acted happy when she waived to him. Is it a sin to ask about her. It is easier to say something nice to her later if you see her again if you know her name.
Sorry about the run on sentence.
2006-12-18 22:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like an over reaction to a natural question. If someone I didnt know waved at me I'd wonder who they were also. His reaction sounds guilty.
2006-12-18 22:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh...she's just a co worker..and since she waived to you and your son means that your bf told mustve told her he has a gf and a son..so it think thats good..she's trying to be nice to you..and if you saw them hug then..yeah maybe theres something..but if you didnt see anything else..then..she's just a co worker
2006-12-18 22:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by stefani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you were trying to get the upper hand on NOTHING! your boyfriend may loves you and was upset to that way of asking. even if you think you didn't say it in a bad way. honor and love your man. and for the love of your children, please don't ever bring it up again. you don't always have to have a handle on every thing. GOD SPEED TO YOU AND YOURS.
2006-12-18 22:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by BERT G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're a paranoid bitÂch
The question was an implication.
Then again, maybe he is fuÂcking her.
2006-12-18 22:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by cheese good 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
he's insecure. let him know that you are not threatened. unless you do feel threatened, in which case you should stop being so insecure.
2006-12-18 22:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by Doc Manhattan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start spying. Where there is smoke there is fire.
2006-12-18 22:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by valerie s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋