i need help with my niece please?

Question

ok my sil took my 5yr niece to another state away from all of us including my brother. he couldnt get any help until he gets a divorce anyway they came back to this state and my sil mom gave my niece to my brother and while he had her she told my mom that her mom and her b/f did things to her well they told childrens svs ect but my sil came and took my niece again and ran with her back to the other state, they arrested her and her b/f for it but instead of calling family they put my niece in foster care in that other state she just turned 6 and my mom and brother keep going to see her as often as they can its a long drive and they are trying to get custody of her back (im not sure why that hasnt happened yet) anyway the big problem is this my niece was potty broke of course but when my mom went to see her this week she had her book bag and she usually cant wait to give it to my mom so she can look at her school work this time she didnt want my mom to see the bag (cont in additional)

my mom asked her what was wrong and she broke out in tears and handed mom the bag inside was a diaper and my mom was confused and asked what it was for and my niece showed her that she was wearing one.. my mom asked the social worker about this and was told that my niece refuses to use the toilet, i dont know what to do my mom dont know what to do being as its in another state and we seem to get no where we dont know if its from being abused by her mom or if it cause her mom told her she is preg again or if the foster parents are doing something to her.. any ideas we need some help here...

thanks bonnie but lets get this straight she is not my sister she is my sister in law.. and she is scum and if i have my way she wont ever see my niece again

Answer 1

Your brother has rights. You need to contact a lawyer in that state and find out what he can do. I'm surprised they didn't give her to him in the first place. Poor thing. She has been through so much. I would be calling around to find out who the best lawyer is and fight to get her back.

Answer 2

Your brother should contact children's services in the state that he lives in. He is the custodial parent. His rights were never taken away as far as I can tell by what I have read, and until his divorce is final and a judge grants custody to one parent or the other he has his rights and should find out how to get his baby back.
The poor little girl is wetting herself because it is the only thing right now that she has control over. She needs now to be with people who truly love and care for her. If your brother can not get her, you should try. A lot of times courts like to let the child live with a family member more so then strangers. Do what you can. It is the child that is being hurt.

Answer 3

The poor kid needs to see a psychologist! When a child starts reverting back to pre-potty training days, it's OFTEN because they feel like they have no control over anything in their own lives. The one thing they CAN control, is that. Now, I'm NOT saying she's doing this on purpose. She's upset about it, so I'm sure she's not! I'm saying her subconcious could be causing it. She has been through a lot and she's still going through it. I know you know that...so PLEASE make sure to the best of your ability, that no one ridicules her for this potty training thing! Keep pressing for custody. Foster care CAN be good, but she'd feel better with her own family. Just be ready if you do get custody, for her to be very afraid and clingy. After all, she was snatched from there before. Good luck! You're all in my prayers!

Answer 4

First thing your brother needs to do is start custody proceedings. Next thing he needs to do is make sure that his daughter is seeing a child psychologist and see what he can do about preventing that poor excuse for a mother from having contact with her for her own safety and protection.

Also Make sure you can prove to the courts that our brother or you are better for the childs well bieng. this must be done prior to the divoce. By being dad and mister your brother has stronger chances at getting her to safety. soon as you can have her seen in a hospital. she is six right, they shouldn't do any traumatic test on her but thay can verify is she has ever been sexually abuse and they can submit these finding to the court on (the child's)Your brother's behalf. The burden of proof is on your brother. Be honest and direct, This childs safety and well being need to be obviously the most important thing shown to the court. The sister-in -laws actions should be near irrelavant. She is unfit, that is heirsay and opinion. The child is scared to confide in her grandmother whom she loves and enjoys spending time with---That should be well noted with the experts!!! mediation and the rules of that state also need to be looked into.
Remeber dad(your brother) has more rights while he is still legally her husband to the child. if they we not married She would be 80% more likely to win any custody case....(drugs, abandonment...etc) Be ready and make sure your Neice's state of mind and safety are cleary your motives to get her home and safe with your family........ The opposing lawyer will try to make it spite and Jealousy

Good Luck
Our Prayers are with your family(our my kids and me)

Answer 5

I am so sorry for this child and your family. You need the best lawyer you can find to implement the custody as fast as possible. If your lawyer hasn't gotten her out of there by now, you need a new lawyer! Call child protective services in the state she is in and see if they can help release her and foster care. But, really a great lawyer; in the state the child resides is what you need.

Answer 6

it seems that your niece has some problem, she needs help , she shouldn't be keeping all this stuff that is happening to herself. some needs to take her to couniling. and if shes doesnt want to use the toilet, maybe something happen there and shes afraid. tald to family services you, your mom and brother and try to get her so she can at least be with her relative, and if your sister comes around make sure you don't leave her alone with the child at all. i wish nothing but the best for all of you. and i hate what has happen to your niece, no child deserves to go thru with that. as for your sister she needs to get fixed so she doesn;t have no more children which she can't take care of.

Answer 7

First thing your brother needs to do is start custody proceedings. Next thing he needs to do is make sure that his daughter is seeing a child psychologist and see what he can do about preventing that poor excuse for a mother from having contact with her for her own safety and protection. Poor girl. I hope everything works out well.

Answer 8

Sometimes the refusing to toilet is as a result of sexual abuse or other types of abuse. This little girl needs to be in counseling even after she comes back to your family to help resolve what she is dealing with. You guys need to stay on getting her back. My advice is to be polite and honest, but very firm and do not listen to anyone who tries to convince you she is better off outside your family, as this might happen.

Answer 9

None--0-zip-nil-nano-nada-and I am unhappy approximately that. I most effective have three nephews. I most effective have one sister and she or he had three sons. I could have cherished to have had no less than one niece. I have a million son, and I had three grandsons, three granddaughters however I followed two of my grandsons--for that reason, I now have---- three sons a million daughter a million grandson three granddaughters a million step-grandson a million step-granddaughter three nephews zero nieces (misplaced two sons)

Answer 10

that is so sad that we live in a country that would allow this travesty to happen, the kids mom & b/f need to be shot & your niece needs to be retuned to the dads home, as long as she is in the "system" things wont progress, this really sux & i know that the "system" is slow & unjust i can only say to try and work within the beurocracy & pray