I have a 7 months old babe, whom I love and adore very much. Well the pregancy was unplanned and the father al

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I went to seak for help , for him to pay atleast a child support. Because he promised me he will try the best he can to help. but he just keep remeind me that he did not want that child, and bla blah. he zsend me an email that this things of me and the babe end here and he want to sign a paper to give up his parental right. What are my options, Is he gonna atleast pay something or help me with anything or he just cut my son's off from him? I need help.

Answer 1

You need to contact a lawyer now!

Answer 2

Well first off I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I recently had a friend in this same situation though. And really its up to you. I undersand you need help with money in order to take care of the baby. And if you really want that then you have no choice but to take him to authorities and have them go after him and "make" him pay it, if he doesnt pay it he'll end up in jail (seen this happen). You will still get paid by domestic relations, whether he pays them or not and like i said he will go to jail and those bills will keep racking up for him until he pays it. Obviously working out an agreement with him just between the two of you would be a lot easier, but he doesnt seem to want that, and says he wants to sign to give up his parental rights becuase he didnt want this. Well, ya know its not like you planned this either or got yourself pregnant! So the choices you have are to like i said "make" him pay it or to decide its not worth the fight w/him especially if he doesnt even care that this child exists (who could not care about a person that they created?) and let him sign the papers and tell him to have a nice life and do the best that you can for the baby, since anything that you do is going to be more caring than anything from him. The only thing with that is then you do still need a money option. Honestly I cannot give you answer to what you should do, I can only point out my opinions on the sides of which to choose, over the question is what is better for the baby.

Answer 3

If he wants to sign away his rights, there is really nothing that you can do legally to stop it. It's his choice whether to be involved in the child's life or not. If he does, he'll have no legal obligation to provide any financial support to you for the child for the rest of his life. But on the other hand, he won't have any rights to the child for life either.

I do believe that a man should stand up and take responsibility for his children, but you really can't make them. I see it everyday at work. Some men would rather go to jail than to pay child support! If he is one of them, then it may be to your benefit to let him go one his way and you go yours. It's better to not have a father at all than to have one that you know doesn't want you. And I speak this from experience, not just my thoughts. My father was the same way, and it hurt me more knowing that he didn't want anything to do with me that it would've if he just disappeared into thin air and had no contact with me. You'll eventually meet someone who wants to be the father that you're child doesn't have right now. Give him the opportunity by not having the deadbeat dad in the picture! It will be him who misses out on your child's life, not you child. Money isn't everything. It takes more than that to shape and mold a child into a good person. Don't get me wrong, it helps, but ultimately, your son needs someone to be there physically, mentally and emotionally more than he does financially. Hope this helps and have a Merry Christmas!

Answer 4

Isn't it amazing that all these unplanned pregnancies are partly done by men who put so much planning, deliberation and action into the very thing that causes the pregnancies. If this loser didn't want a child then why did he do the one thing on this earth to get one. Have sex. It appears he wanted the pleasure but didn't want to either take responsibility for the child or the preventive measures in having one. Hey don't believe his words, his actions belied his words. He has performed the act, not done precautions,thereore he has made his choice. When he tells you he didn't want a child: BULLSHIT.
If you can take the S.O.B. to court. All the way. Have him legally fulfill his moral obligations. Get child support from him. He has not the respect and love for you or his child to act decently. Take him to the cleaners and don't have anything to do with him. He has used you for his own purposes. Then he turns his back on his own child. Be merciless. For if he didn't want the answer, he shouldn't have asked the question. This scum, and I won't mince words, gives us men a bad name. Ask youself what kind of a person would use someone such and then turn his back on his own small helpless child. You know the answer. Act accordingly.
And good luck. You deserve much better in life and you will get it.

Answer 5

Don't let him sign over his parental rights until the child support is arranged. You'll probably have to have a paternity test which he should pay for. Contact your Department of Human Services or some other local department and they will arrange to take the child support from him. Just because he "didn't want the child" doesn't mean he's not responsible. He had sex with you, I'm assuming you didn't force him. He needs to be accountable.

Answer 6

He sounds like he isn't interested in being a Dad. It's his loss, sweetie. I agree with the others; get a lawyer. #1, to cement that you are the parent of this baby, and that he gives up his rights. He may come back later and say that he didn't mean to. So you need to do what's best for you and your baby. That's your focus. There are lawyers that do pro-bono work (free). Talk to one. You may be able to get child support. It depends on the situation, like if he paid any of the medical bills or not, age, employment, etc. I wish I could say you are entitled to it, but I can't. My Mom tried for fourteen years to get child support out of my Father. It never happened. But the laws are much more defined now then they were then. Check it out. You can always go online.

Answer 7

attempt and locate out the toddler's weight in case you are able to, if no longer bypass with a length 3 of a keep style like Walmart or something. this way in the event that they are too small they are able to take them in and replace the unopened p.c.. without desiring the receipt. My merely approximately 8 month previous is in length 3, he weighs merely approximately 20lbs and the container says they are for as much as 26 lbs (besides the actuality that during actuality he's often been a pair pounds shy of the reported weight earlier moving up a length via his length).

Answer 8

DO NOT sign anything he sends you, brings with him to you, nor what HIS lawyer asks you to. He is trying very hard to get out of his RESPONSIBILITY to his child, to pay for her ! He doesn't care about you or the child but only, himself ! This guy is a walking case of herpes living off the body of society ! Get yourself a LAWYER !!! Make this jerk [baby's "father"] pay for the child until it finishes University or college [age 25 years in Canada] ! Good luck to you !!!

Answer 9

you need to get some advice from a layer, don't sign any paper work that your ex brings to you, he should be paying child support and be a responsible father even if you 2 don't get along

good luck and i hope things don't get to tough for you,

Answer 10

If he signs over his rights, you have to accept this to, he cant just do it...then he doesn't ever have to pay child support. Go to the DA and file for child support, he will have to pay...

Answer 11

dear, he is not going to do anything for that baby..he wants to give up his parental rights so he doesnt have to pay anything..he doesnt want any responsibility..the only way you will get him to help you out financially is by taking him to court and making him pay for child support..go get a lawyer and seek this guy out..he needs to be responsible of his part of this baby...good luck to you..