I meet a kind man, he is an africa-american. We chat warmly online. He invites me to go out with him this weekend. Can you show me some suggestions?
Thank you!
This the site we met ^_^ http://www.emilitarycenter.com/inter
2006-12-18 13:26:17 · 16 answers · asked by Linda C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's alright to go out with him if you want to. If you do, just continue to chat with him, especially some points about yourselves and interests. This will help both of you boost some confidence, and let you know each other a bit more. If you're comfortable around him, continue to know him more. You can share some ideas and experiences as well, but I'm not saying you can trust him directly (no, not yet). Just be yourself and stay calm. And one more thing, have fun... both of you. It's nice having fun while knowing each other more. Make sure you're in a crowded (safe) place though. Keep your eyes wide open. Okay.
2006-12-18 13:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Chimchim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. I have met alot of friends and even my current bf online. He was just luck. If you knew the crazy lying no good son of B's that knew how to speak nice online and for the first meet... its just crazy and dangerous.
If you must meet him, tell him to meet you with one of his buddies and you bring one of your buddies to a coffee shop. You can sit down have a a cup of joe at at a separate table, see if there is real chemistry and if not get up smile say I don't think we are compatible and leave with your friend.
Also ask for a pix b4 meeting, Don't sit around waiting for someone to check you out and waste your time. If you are not worth a pix he is not worth meeting. Even better do online live with yahoo or aol im where you can chat with video and see him as he talks to you. No dirty talk, no nude pix, just honest conversation. Ask for an id, if you haven't built up a repoire enough to make sure Joe Brown is Joe Brown - why are you meeting with him. A guy who sees you and likes you will understand, someone looking for a piece of tail or to cheat will feel the need to be discreet. If you have already did the online nastiness with him leave him alone. Once a man gets disrespect for you in his head he will never give you his heart.
Good luck
2006-12-18 21:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet somewhere public and safe, like where you can get to and from the venue to your car and back safely when you are alone.
I'd try a daytime date, maybe breakfast or lunch.
Treat it like a blind date, remember that people feel pretty free to say just about anything on line so start from scratch on meeting him.
Be careful, but keep an open mind. If you instincts start giving you red flags, pay big attention.
DO NOT DRING ANY ALCOHOL OR USE ANY SUBTANCES!
Good luck and take care of yourself!
2006-12-18 21:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would meet in a very bright place where your friends are all around. Lots of predators on line. You really don't know someone until you meet them. Don't drink any mixed drinks with him until you feel safe in being around him.stick to water.
I was in the military and a lot of men are out for just one thing and would do any thing to get it.
Be-careful
2006-12-18 21:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..usually it's not a good idea to meet someone you don't know..because..well..people can easily lie to you about who they are over the internet...but..if you really want to meet him...meet him at some place where there are many people..and i suggest you stay where there are a lot of people...if i were you i wouldn't be alone with him because..you don't really know him...who knows he could be someone that isn't a good person...but hopefully he's a good guy :)
2006-12-18 21:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've really decided to go out with him, the best suggestion is to be careful and make sure you tell someone where are you going and with whom.
2006-12-18 21:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know for a fact that this is a good person ? .. there are alot of online predators and i would hate to see the statistics just keep going up .. hope this helps!
2006-12-18 21:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by Cheerleader657 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ommm. i u dont go. theres alot of online pretedors an if u do dicide to go make it a double date or make sure someone knows were ur going
2006-12-18 21:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not saying that he might turn out to be bad or anything, but make sure that someone is with you or at least knows where you're going to and with whom you're going with. Or bring one of your closet friends and his/her girlfriend/boyrfriend with you.
2006-12-18 21:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been talking? i suggest you make it a double date with a couple of your friends just in case....
2006-12-18 21:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by jessesangul987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋