I'm feeling down...?

Question

I've been arguing with my boyfriend, i think he's talking to some dirtball on the internet, i am pregnant (35 weeks) with his baby, he denies he is talking to any one but i know he is, i seen the message history on his computer.... so i confronted him about it and he say "im not talking to anyone, but even if i was whats the big deal?" this is like an admission i think, although i seen the message history and told him i did he still denies it... mean while i was talking to a guy friend of mine and he was pissed off so i stopped talking to him, but its ok for him?? Advice anyone? if you dont have any advice for me, then say something to cheer me up some how!! PLEASE!!! =*(

Answer 1

I don't think you can tell too much from a few online habits of his. Most partners will flirt. Only some will cheat.

Let's say a few men will always cheat (nothing you can do about that), a few men will never cheat (nothing you need to do) and most are somewhere in between. The men in the middle of the range are the massive majority and even where they are in this rating isn't all-important. What matters is IF a partner actually cheats - he may be, by nature, quite likely to, yet does not. I think you can definitely improve a partner's chances of not cheating on you (for instance, by making sure he doesn't have a job where he's away from you for weeks at a time with good-looking female colleagues*!) - and it's more important now you're going to have a kid together!

I'm from the UK, where we have quite a few young, unmarried mothers, but nothing like the rate in the US. I can see the huge advantages of a baby having contact with both mother and father. So, you've got to try and buck the trend of men leaving their women just as they've had children.

*think of more examples like this and think of more ways of making your relationship a success.