problem with a christian?

Question

I'm going to have a family reunion in my house next weekend, but I've yet to invite everyone, the problem is that I've got this christian cousin that's really obsessive and always ruins the reunions arguing with EVERYONE about religion, and most of us are atheists, snd some catholics, the last thing I want is him ruining another party, but I really love my aunt, and I cant invite her or his other son without the christian one, what would you do

Answer 1

just listen to him with an open mind. if u feel convicted then maybe God's trying to talk to u thru him

Answer 2

I am a Christian and like most Christians I love to talk about Jesus too, but after all, house rules.

It used to be considered good manners to not bring up sex, politics, or religion and it should still be that way in a mixed group of people.

I think you should invite your cousin, but with the understanding that discussions on the subject of religion are upsetting to some in the group, and you would appreciate his/her refraining from going there. If he/she will not, he would probably be more comfortable celebrating somewhere else.

As I said, house rules.

Answer 3

Well I am a Christian...even though it is painful to see my loved ones separated from Christ...it is not my place to convict them if they are not open to hearing...I would encourage you, when you send an invite....to tell everyone the same thing(that way he does not feel singled out)...Just nicely say it is the desire to have all attend...but because of the different view points about religion...that those that want to be at the gathering, need to agree to not discuss religious differences, but just be a time to love and embrace eachother...if anyone does not feel that they can abide by this... it is painful to say, but for the benefit of all, it would be best if they opted not to come. That way, with everyone hearing the same, it is up to him if he wants to be offended...If he embraces an offence, then that is his choice. Hope this helps. Be Blessed.

Answer 4

Does your Aunt feel the same as you? If so, gently point out to your cousin that to be truly Christian, he has to obey the fifth commandment, Honor thy father and thy mother. Also, and this isn't meant as an insult to you or your family, when Jesus told His disciples not to"cast their pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, then turn and tear you into pieces.," He was talking about not giving the gospel to those who weren't ready for it. Matthew 7:6. The pearls are the gospel.
Please don't take that the wrong way. E-mail me if I have offended you, and you want to vent your anger.
He sounds very outspoken about his faith. Gently remind him he needs you and your family as much as he is thinking (rightly) that you all need salvation.
I hope everything turns out okay. When I was first saved, I had very much the same in-your-face attitude with my family, and I feel I have lost some of the closeness that I don't think I can ever get back.

Answer 5

I've been in that situation. It's hard.

You didn't say how old the boys are. I would pull the Christian one aside and have EXACTLY what you want to say thought out beforehand. Just a couple of sentences. Friendly but firm. Also, phrase things in ways that he must agree with you. Something like "David, can I have a word with you? I'd like to ask a favor of you tonight. I know how you feel about your faith and you've talked about it with all of us during so many Christmas' past. We do understand our differences and respect your beliefs. Tonight I'm asking you to respect my beliefs and my house rules and for the sake of OUR family, I request a "no conflict and no arguement" zone tonight. No discussion about religion ok? And just to be fair, none about sex or politics either!"

Gosh, good luck!

Answer 6

If your cousin is a true Christian , then he should abide by the following Scripture 1 Corinthians 5 : 13... But them that are without GOD judgeth. Therefore PUT AWAY FROM AMONG YOURSELVES THAT WICKED PERSON . He shouldn`t want to be around you anyway . Do him a favor and don`t invite him . This will allow him to obey GOD`s wish of not associating with unbelievers!! Trust me , he will thank you for not inviting him !!

Answer 7

Explain to him/her that being a Christian means to not cast judgement on others. Yes, Christians are supposed to share the word of the Lord with those who are non believers, if they are receptive to it. Otherwise it falls on deaf ears and he/she gives other Christians a bad reputation of shoving Christianity down peoples throats. Tell him/her that in your home he/she must respect the difference in beliefs of the other family members. It doesn't mean he/she must agree with them. If they cant do that then maybe it's not a party that they should attend with non believers. It's all about respecting one another and facing the reality that not everyone has the same beliefs, but it doesn't mean that they are the physical being of the devil on earth.

Answer 8

I am not an Atheist, but I don't like just anybody preaching to me, since religion is something very personal. It depends on the kind of religion he is preaching, be it an old established one, a cultish one, a sectarian or a grassroots one. In any case, a party is not the place to discuss religion. Perhaps you should present your cousin for Christmas with a book like "Killer Cults" , or "The Christ Conspiracy". He may realize that he better tone down his preaching. Also you may quote to him "Be Aware of False Prophets........"

Answer 9

I serouisly doubt that your cousin is looking to aruge with your other family members. I say this as a christian myself. It is hard when there's not many in our families and we just care about our loved ones and don't want them to suffer in hell. Your cousin is just saying what he feels and thinks. He's not out to ruin your parties or he's not trying to make you mad at him or make you believe what he believes although he most likely wishes you would. I would invite him but let him know that you and your other family members know what he believes and have heard him or her but they don't want him to keep repeating him or her over and over every single time.

Answer 10

I love arguing with people about religion. I know that doesn't help your case. I would be very blunt. I would say," Hey man, we're trying to have a good time here. We all know what you believe, but you need to respect our beliefs too. You're not going to convert any of us tonight, so lets have a good time and shut the hell up about religion"
You may want to be a little more kind though. Good luck.

Answer 11

Well, it is your party, it is your right to deny an invitation to anyone that does not see religion the way you do.

If he being a Christian is an outcast in your athiest family, then you can't possible let him come in and spout his beliefs in front of the whole family. How could that be any good.

Don't we always supress the views of anyone that does not believe the way we do, it is the athiest way, isn't it.

He might even say something that makes sense and that would be terrible.
Isn't that something like kids reading the ten commandments in school and thinking they should obey them. What could be worse.