Would you trust your son home alone?? he is 16. See add'l details.
2006-12-18 12:50:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you came home one night and saw your son and his g/f sleeping together in just their underwear what would you do?? Would you wake them up?? How would you wake them?? Would you yell or whisper in his ear and tell him to wake her?? Would you assume they had sex?? Would you ever trust your son again??
Would you intentionally try and embarass her?? Would you want her to break up with your son out of embarassment?? Would you ever allow her in your house again?? Would you tell her to leave wearing only her bra and panties or let her get dressed first?? Would you have woke her and removed her and had your husband take her place and freak out your son by him trying to feel up his dad??
2006-12-18 12:52:30 · update #1
Would you scold your son if he was sleeping in his boxers next to his g/f who was wearing a see-thru bra and panties set, and he began to feel her up??
2006-12-18 12:55:49 · update #2
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqYRFixkcoHc3x5CQmG_yJfsy6IX?qid=20061218174259AAPlxkt
2006-12-18 13:05:45 · update #3
my parents trust my brother and i greatly. if they didnt i dont think they would have let us go to the mountians twice, once for a week and another time for a weekend on our own. it was a 7 hour drive there, and another 7 hours back, we were 16 and 18 at the time. also they went off to the beach for a week and left us home and guess what? te house looked BETTER when they got home! you have failed as a parent if you come home to find your son like you just described. my parents raized us right.
2006-12-18 15:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a youth pastor and father. I always counsel the parents I work with that trust is earned. If your son has done something that you explicitly told him not to do, then he should be punished. However, if you have just told him "Don't have sex" and haven't given him a viable reason why other than "You might get her pregnant, get an STD, or because I told you so," You have failed him. Rules without reasons breed rebellion. If it was my son, who knows Truth and why sex before marriage is breaking God's plan for us, I would lose a great deal of trust in him and he would have to earn the priviledge of staying home alone. You should reconsider allowing him to date at 16 or be home alone with her anyway. Dating is for the purpose of finding a wife. Beginning that process before he is ready is dangerous...you found that out firsthand. My prayers are with you. Raising kids is hard. Find a good conservative evangelical church and get plugged in.
2006-12-18 21:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Bucktastic 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well the last part of your additional information is great. That would be hilarious. I would be upset and not want to trust him again but I would figure that he is 16. That is old enough to make decisions. I would not embarrass him because it is not up to you. I would have a serious talk with him after they woke up. I would not assume they had sex. I would ask him though and make sure he knows the consequences of his actions. This is a tough situation but you have to handle it like an adult. Good luck
2006-12-18 20:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all my kids and i have a very open relationship and we talk about everything...yea i know your all saying that they dont tell me all but i am pretty sure they do cause some of what i know i wish i didnt... anyway my son wouldnt do that unless he asked first. but if i did come home and they were in there undies in bed i would wake him and ask to see him in the other room and i would ask him where his clothes were and if i believed him wich as of now i have no reason not to he has always been honnest with me. and i would go from there..
2006-12-18 21:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by crazyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would allow the teens to awake and get dressed. Then I would sit them down and ask about what birth control methods they are using. I would explain protection and I would ask the girl if I could contact her mother about her needing birth control. I would then
go to the drugstore and provide condems for my son. I would have his father explain how to use them.
2006-12-18 21:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by bethlee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd have a heart to heart talk with him after she left and make sure if they were sexually active that they were practicing safe sex.
2006-12-18 21:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by singledad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋