Okay, I have no religion... I mainly believe religion is a meaningless pursuit and a waste of time and energy. However, I am very respectful of those who practice any relgion. I know that their beliefs are just as valid as mine and that any belief system is very important to it's followers. My situation is this: I work with a guy who is VERY Christian. He is very nice and he likes me. I like him, too. I've never been treated so respectfully by someone, especially a man (I've always been one of the guys). But with our religious differences I wonder if it is even worth pursuing. What do you think???
I grew up in a 'VERY christian' household and understand the faith. I know that sometimes I get frustrated on here about the way some Christians try to force their religion on people. This man is very honorable in not doing that and instead leading by example.
And just to clarify: I'm just wondering, I don't even know if it would go that way at this point.
2006-12-18 12:45:28 · 14 answers · asked by ceaz 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Cool. You'll work it out if you love one another.
2006-12-18 12:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that people *must* be of the same faith to have a happy partnership. However, a lot of that depends on the fervency of their belief.
He may not push his faith on you now, but if you became deeply involved he most likely would. He would because, as you know, his belief is that if you are not saved, you would not go to heaven. He would feel it his duty to bring you along in your spiritual life, because he cared about you. It's fine that he should do so -- in his faith that is a way of showing concern and love -- but how open would you be to it?
If he is fervent in his belief and you see religion as a "waste of time" -- you'd best just stay friends!
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2006-12-18 12:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do get together, (which I highly suggest you don't) he will put god before you. If things get serious, things like sex, family, and eventually how to raise the kids will become an issue. I went through a relationship where one of us was a skeptic and the other was a devout christian. It did not end well. We were in love but the relationship had to end because god wasnt being put first. Its just a big heart ache.
2006-12-18 12:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by latenightdrives 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think if it does get to a point where you're thinking about dating, you need to clarify from the beginning whether he only wants to be with someone who shares his beliefs. It's understandable if he does, but it might not be something he's worried about. You would also need to be clear with him if you know you won't ever share them.
Really, it's just a matter of you two discussing it, and deciding for yourselves if it can work out. But you need to do it early on.
2006-12-18 12:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by milomax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you agnostic by chance anyway when dealing with religious people you should always tread with caution yeah he might not be pushing his beliefs on you at the moment but who's to say for sure that he will never push his beliefs on you as within time he might feel the need to have you believe the same way he does due to the fact that he might feel pressured from his family to date somebody who shares his religious beliefs
2006-12-18 12:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can learn not to bug you about his religion, you should be fine. M husband is the son of a Methodist minister and I'm Wiccan. We're making it work mostly because we know better than to go after each other about religion.
2006-12-18 12:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get along with him, great! I've always had trouble with the religious guys I've dated - they believed in a lot of other stuff too, and I'm too much of skeptic.
2006-12-18 12:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by eri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've dated girls who have different beliefs from me, though I'm not Christian. It won't be an issue for you unless one of you makes it one. But that's true of all differences, isn't it?
2006-12-18 12:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by rabid_scientist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, if God is his highest value, he can morally sacrifice you for God and be righteous. It's a trap that you must be willing to jump into.
You need to have a discussion about what the true highest values that all your actions support are.
2006-12-18 12:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Real Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can seriously see it as never coming up as an issue, then go for it. If not, you know the answer.
I would guess it's the second case. Unequally yoked and all that.
2006-12-18 13:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inter-religious dating is not a good choice for anyone, most of them end up in the divorce courts.
2006-12-18 12:54:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋