Why do I seem to offend every person?

Question

First, I am not trying to get everyone to like me here so this is not why I m upset. But I am upset because I seem to offend every person I work with. even 'friends' (except my best friends) get offended eventually.

I try not to care about whether people like me, but at work this is devastating because I've offended even people who are above me and Im looking for another job right now

Maybe I am imagining things and they are not as petty and offended as I think they are but their actions that continue tell me otherwise.

I don't feel like talking to anyone or socialising anymore. My anxiety like morning-wakening and getting breathless seems to be coming back after an absence of half a year.

Friends tell me Im a perfectionist and I try to force every1 to do things my way. I feel uneasy doing that knowing this offends but I have to do what I think is right, isn't? I'll feel even more uneasy if I don't correct what is wrong. I just can't 'let go'.

Help? Advice?

Answer 1

You feel uneasy but offend people anyway - BECAUSE YOU WOULD RATHER PISS PEOPLE OFF THAN LET THEM DO THINGS THEIR WAY ON OCCASION!

Thats called pathology - and you should seek some psychological help,because doing things that make you miserable, despite knowing that they are making you miserable are called disorders.
and there is help for conditions like this, but it takes work - and the internet is not the place to get it.

And you can't fix this yourself, because your own thinking got you in this place to begin with - so you cant trust it to get you out of this mess either.

Get some direction from a professional
Good Luck

Answer 2

gees, this sounds really familiar. I'm in the same boat. I seem to offend everyone and I don't even try. why just the other day I told someone that they looked exhausted, and they got offended and asked me (sarcastically) if they should get a face lift.
You just can't please people. Just try to go on your merry way and keep to yourself, that's what I do. I have no friends, and I also seem to offend everyone. I just got used to it and try to live the best you can.
People are so grumpy these days.

Answer 3

i dont know you so i cant say what your problem is or even give you advice but i can tell you if you are a perfectionist... people like that tend to seem a lil' controlling....and really thats not who they are at all... my brother is the same way, it seems like everytime he talks to someone he offends them or pisses them off... but he just keeps goin and doesnt worry about what people think, and i think thats what you should do... i mean you have friends who cares what other people think as long as you know your own intentions.....

Answer 4

I think you should try doing things another way if you really only like your ways. Be more sociable and think about what you say before you say it. Trust me on that one. Best of luck.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

U must be one of those fellars that think they know it all ,
guess what, u need to use the word JOY and stop offending folks. JOY AS IN
J-JESUS FIRST
O-OTHERS
Y-yourself
Care and be alert on your actions.

Answer 7

thats just the way u r nd u cant really change that until ur determined

Answer 8

let other people do what they think is right.. if they have listened to you and did what you told them to do.. shouldn't you try the same?

Answer 9

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