A girl whom I've become good friends with (and developed a crush on) recently moved away. I just heard from one of her friends that her ex-boyfriend recently died and she's been taking it really rough. I only have her email address, but I want to say that I'm there for her.
Problem is that I told her how I felt about her a few weeks ago and she hasn't responded. I know that she's been having a very hard time, dealing with her ex-boyfriend's death, and now I feel terrible about telling her my feelings and piling on her worries. I want to say that I'm there for her, but have my feelings for her pushed her away? I really want her to know that I'll always be her friend and I'll be here if she wants to talk.
2006-12-18 12:44:32 · 13 answers · asked by The Real Deal. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, she is lucky to have such a caring person in her life! I think you should tell her that even if your relationship can only be as friends, you are 100% ready to be there for her as a friend, with no pressure/strings. Then leave it at that. She'll come to you when she's ready.
2006-12-18 12:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you have is her e-mail, send her a note every couple of days, just saying "hey, how was your day?" Tell her about something funny or weird you saw in the news or around town, that a new store opened in town, the weather changed, neutral things like that. Keep it light. Attach a funny picture. Don't expect a response right away, since she's grieving. Don't push. Just send the regular, light stuff her way. When she's ready, she'll respond. She'll appreciate a pressure-free friend. Let it grow from there.
2006-12-18 12:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by SlapHappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel horrible about sending the last email you recieved. I did not know what you have been going through until recently and hope that you will forgive me for sending something like that when you really just needed my friendship. I have put my feelings to the side and I am here for you when you need someone to talk to. I am so sorry that you are going through losing him. I really didn't know and now that I do I don't know if I can forgive myself for sending that to you. Please respond atleast to let me know that you are ok. If you want to talk I am here for you always. Please be ok.
There you go. Hope it helps!
2006-12-18 12:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Janet J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. But send her an emial saying i know what you have been going through i hop you get better and remeber im here for you.
2006-12-18 12:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by hottierecy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forward her this question. you spoke straight from the heard and no one can ignore or laugh at that. I hope it works out for you. you sound like a great guy.
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2006-12-18 12:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lucy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her time to settle things. But you might be in the friends zone. SOL bro
2006-12-18 12:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by sk20007623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep supporting her and being her comfort. Don't let her down by any means. Let her have some time and don't push her into you.
2006-12-18 12:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you will be there for her if she ever feels that she need to call on you.
2006-12-18 12:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ariel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say it. She might feel the same. . . maybe not, but dont worry about that. How did her b/f die?!?
2006-12-18 12:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋