how do i tell my grandma her young roomate is a free loader without her getting offensive?

Answer 1

There is no nice way. Just tell her what you think. She can either accept it or not. She is a grown woman. Obviously she gets something out of this relationship.

Answer 2

You simply take her out for coffee, so she can't jump out of her
seat and tell her. Say grandma your roommate is taking advantage of you and I think you need to have a talk with this person. Tell her you don't want her to get hurt in the end. If she
says's that your taken this all wrong, then tell hell to keep an eye
out on how thing are things are going, tell her to notice the person is not working and that she is paying all the bills and buying all the food. When he/she should be helping her out
with everything. She could just be in denial, my mom is the same
way, she defends my nephew. He'll ask her for some money
and we'll keep telling her not to give it to him and she still does.
He will even steal it from her then she will say he didn't take it
that it was another nephew of mine, which is bull ****, cause
I was also getting blame for his stealing. Till this day he still does
the same thing. That is why I say for you to tell her how you feel
no holding back. It is okay if she gets a little offensive, in the long run she'll start to think about it and thank you.

Answer 3

I agree with first dragon. She already knows and doesn't care.
She has company and probably her own family has not been as
caring as she hoped.....understandably so, they have their own problem....Caring for someone does not come cheap.
If she were to pay for company from a Senior Care FAcility she
would have to pay about $15.00 an hour....Don't worry it' s not
coming out of anybodys' pocketbook but hers......

YOU ARE A GOOD GRANDDAUGHTER, so don't worry so much
when grandma needs your help, she will ask you for it......just
keep an eye on her.

Answer 4

You're probably gonna have to have proof. Lots of adults are defensive of our decisions and definitely don't want to have our mistakes pointed out to us by our children or grandchildren. So if you can, get the proof she needs to see it for herself. Otherwise you'll just be fighting a losing battle. She should be proud to have such a concerned grand child.

Answer 5

just tell her, it's not good that someone is taking advantage of your grandma, they are always making her pay for everything or what?

Answer 6

she knows.

are you afraid that she's going to get hurt?
or, do you want her attention & money for yourself?

if the first, then talk to her like she's an adult
not like she's a child

if the second,
leave her alone

Answer 7

She already knows, doesn't she? Maybe she just likes the company.