im 28 years old, and have had very bad luck with relationships. about 6 months ago i met a very nice girl who i get along with very well. The problem is she is 15 years old and im 28 years old. I know that its tecically wrong, but we really like each other alot and her parents have nothing against it. Im not after sex, i really like her on a emotional level. She is the only girl that i have felt comortible around in a long time. Opinions please.
2006-12-18 12:39:17 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is more mature than most girls her age due to having to deal with family problems and raising her 2 younger sisters. we seem to be on the same emotional level
2006-12-18 12:42:20 · update #1
and yes, ive talked to her parents and they have nothing against it.
2006-12-18 12:44:07 · update #2
P.S. serious answers, no pedofilia comments, its not like that, im asking a serious question.
2006-12-18 12:57:15 · update #3
As long as you don't involve sexual relations until she is of legal age, namely 18, then there is nothing wrong with it. I'm now 34, my boyfriend is 57, and we have been together for 18 years this past November. Good luck to the both of you.
2006-12-18 12:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by pikachu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a high risk relationship.
1. Many 19 year-old people don't yet know what they want to do with their life. Having sufficient maturity at 15 to have some certainty about that issue would be unusual. Result: in 5 years, it is unlikely that she will still be who she is today.
2. Since you are now on the high side of 25, you have experienced a number of things in your life that she still has to look forward to.
3. Feeling comfortable for you is quite logical since you have been alive nearly twice as long as she has. If you ask her whether she is comfortable with you, you will get a positive answer. Please realize that such an answer is based on 6 months of idyllic, pleasant events. Not exactly a lengthy basis for a relationship assessment.
Bottom line: While the relationship may feel very comfortable now, when she "grows up" in 5-6 years (you will be 33-34), don't be surprised if she is then ready for someone who is 23-25 and more of the same generation. That would be a bummer for you.
Comment regarding maturity: She did not become the caretaker of her younger siblings by choice and likely (at 15) did not receive any training on how to parent them, being only a few years older than they are. The family issues suggest to me that she is less attracted to you than she is attempting to escape a bad family situation. Unlucky you!
2006-12-18 13:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats a major age difference. My first instinct was NO, it is really wrong on so many levels. But I guess what really matters is the love. Just be extra careful, because this could do many bad things. You are almost 15 years older than her, the same age difference between my and my stepfather, and with things going the way they do in the world today, you are almost old enough to be her father. Just be careful. Would highly advise no sex, regardless of how close you get. If something goes wrong, parents can press charges because she is still a minor. Good Luck.
2006-12-18 12:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by College Wifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look man, aside from what I think, here is some advice. If you really "love" her, then let her go for 3 years at least then you'll honestly prove to yourself that she felt the same way to come back to you. You were a kid once, did you ever have a crush on someone that went away after a decent period of time?
I'm not here to judge, so I can't answer your question on weather it is wrong or not, as to the legal question, if you have sex and she is under the age of concept for your area, then well...you know.
2006-12-18 15:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are telling me the truth about not wanting sex and treat her well from now on I think it is ok as girls do mature faster than men control your sexual desires give her time to make sure you are right for each other then things should be fine as the others say keep it legal all the best have a Merry Christmas.
2006-12-18 12:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, nothing is wrong with dating a hot chick who's 10 years or more older than me as long as we're adults and don't care what other people says about us lol. Aries Sun/Scorpio Moon/Capricorn Mars/Aries Mercury.
2016-05-23 05:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no, no, no. You are ASKING for trouble. I do not care how mature she is, this is the thing that is going to label you a child predator for the rest of your life. Her parents are F-ing morons if they actually allow their daughter to go out with a guy 13 years older then her.
I mean, if that is the case, why don't they have her go out with a guy who is near 40? Does it matter? No. Why? Because, whether you are 40 or 28, you are still too old to old to go out with her. It is called statutory rape. This will be on your files, your records, and such. Do you know how hard it will be for you to get a job with your fondness for young girls?
Do not walk; RUN! As far away as you can.
People who play with fire are likely to get burn. You are going to be engulfed in flames!
2006-12-18 12:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're really confused. if she's 13 years younger than you there's only so much of an emotional level that you can really experience with her, only so much depth that she's even really capable of to begin with, with anyone, not just yourself. what you think is perhaps an emotional level, is just something physical masquerading itself in that way, because of the moral and ethical dilemma associated with communicating with her in that way. we've all done it, believe me there's nothing new with that. but don't get caught up and you'll have some real issues and problems to worry about than just your typical bad luck with relationships. you'll have to find a way to get that energy and naivete about life that you're getting from her through someone that's a lot closer to your age, at least over 20.
2006-12-18 12:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong because she is not mature enough to have an adult relationship. Be very cautious if you go through with this relationship because you may scar this child by attempting to have an adult relationship. I would wait until she is 18 atleast before actually having any type of relationship with her but that is easier said than done. You can not help who you love but you can help whom you hurt. If you are determined to keep this girl in your life you need to think very carefully of what kind of damage you can do by pushing her into adulthood to quickly. No I am not saying you are going to make her do anything she does not want to do but she knows you are older and she knows what older people do when they are in love. She may say she is ready because she is scared of losing you.
2006-12-18 12:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by Janet J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not a good situation nor advisable. If her mother even thinks that you two are having sex she can press statutory rape charges on you and if you do have sex with her and are reported, get used to the fact of having your name added to a national registry of sex offenders and never being able to get a job with vulnerable population clients (pre-schoolers, children and the elderly). It is not worth it. Please use a dating site and find someone at least 18 or over. It's not worth your future.
2006-12-18 12:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋