for carers of people with borderline personality disorder?

Question

I'm looking to hear about other people's strategies for either supporting a borderline person or caring for yourself and dealing with the manipulation and blame that are a part of the disorder. I really need to hear from someone caring for a bpd that understands some of the difficulties and key concerns for both the bpd and the carer. I would love to hear about personal experiences. Any help would be appreciated.

Answer 1

I've been there and done that.

If the person with BPD acknowledges it, and seeks help, then work with them.

Sadly, many cannot accept BPD as a diagnosis (just one more blow to their self-esteem) and ultimately I think you need to watch out for your personal mental health.

I was in a long-term relationship with a BPD, and ultimately got our child and myself out in one piece, more or less. It's a total alternative universe and psychological hell, and if they won't deal with it themselves, there's not a lot you can do about it other than either sit it out or get out.

Answer 2

I have bpd very badly for 4 years now. My parents just barely found out they are very careful around me. They fear i will try suicide again and put me back in the looney bin. Now i agreed for therapy but no group. Also my mom checks my room daily for anything i can hurt myself with. I have trouble with this disorder but who wouldn't with this. Mainly check them for anything that can be used as a object to hurt themself. Try to get them to go into therapy no group unless they are willing. If the person is not as manipulative be aware they can start at any time.