Together for like 6 years, got pregnant, he couldn't deal with it, now 6 years later he wants me back; says he never stopped loving me and that i was always his girl, and that we should be a family....should i give it another chance even though i'd gotten over him finally?
2006-12-18 12:19:50 · 19 answers · asked by smooches! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We were very young when we first got together
2006-12-18 12:21:18 · update #1
He said he was young and admitted he couldn't handle it at the time, and he has been there for our child during those 6 years...
2006-12-18 12:26:16 · update #2
He did cheat on me like 3 times during the relationship and in the 6 years he wasn't with me, he has had another (or more) relationship...I have grown immensely and i do feel like i have to force myself a little to feel something for him. It's like we have to get to know each other again, and i told him that. There are a couple of other guys that are interested in me, and i'm worried that if i give this another chance, i may miss out on sumthing with sumone else...i feel like i owe it to him to try for some reason (sounds stupid, i know)
2006-12-18 12:30:32 · update #3
wow he left you for 6 years? it's up to you. 6 years would probably be too long of a break for me. But he does have your kid.
2006-12-18 12:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by ftz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if he didnt want a family to begin with what makes you think he is gonna stick around for you again. If he truly loved you and cared for you he would have never walked out of you're life. If someone cant' be man enough to take the responsibility of being a father then what does that say about the guy. Now it's more convenient that after 6 years he didnt help out with any responsiblities and now that things will be a lot easier he decides Oh I always loved you. If you know whats best for you and your child you will do the right thing
2006-12-18 20:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he in the kid's life? Did he have other relationships in those 6 years? If so, how did they end? Don't end up being the girl he comes to only when no one else is around. If that's not the case make a deal with him. Date him. I know you've had a kid together already, but tell him if he really loves you, he has to get to know you now. I'm sure you've changed in 6 years. If he won't stick around, at least you didn't jump into anything too fast.
2006-12-18 20:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by Dominique A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just b/c y'all have a child together doesn't mean you should be together. I mean six years is a long time. Do you even really know each other anymore? I would def take my time in this one. My first reaction is to say no, but I don't know how you are together now. But just don't do it based only on the fact that you have a child together and were together for six years six years ago.
2006-12-18 20:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOO!!!! If he wants to be a father to his child, you might want to work that out and get child support while ur at it, but if he could leave you at your most vulnerable time, he is not worth a second glance. And so what if he was young. You were young too and you were left with the responsibility of raising your child on your own. A reason but not an excuse.
2006-12-18 20:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends has he been paying child support over the last 6 years?? has he kept contact with the child visiting them regularly and buying the birthday & christmas gifts?? has he in the last 6 yrs seem like he still flirty or has been single the whole time like he really did miss u?
far as i can tell by the paragraph i say dont take him back, let hims ee the child of course it is his, but dont take him back into ur life as ur partner, he left u once an finally got over him, dont let him hurt u (and ur child) again.
2006-12-18 20:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO....He left you once,,,,,what says he wont do it again. If you get pregneant again, he might leave again, and youll life will be miserable. Find a different, nice, honest man and make a living with him. Tell him that if he always loved you, why did you leave you? If he always loved you, you wouldnt be asking this question and you wouldnt be wondering if you should give him another chance. Hed be with you, together, but he had his chance, he left you. Time for you to move on
2006-12-18 20:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Philip P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!! He is a butthole for even putting you and your child in this situation!! has he payed you any child support? does he do anything for his child? What did he finally grow up after 6 years and want to be a dad???? think this thru girl..
2006-12-18 20:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by melissa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, give it a try. but by the looks of it, you said you got over him, then dont. if you want him to be a part of your childs life, let him be, let your child know his father, but nothing beyond it. but its really up to you. you can be friends, or just let time pass by and see if it works out. but dont force yourself to like him. think about how you feel and if you really got over him
2006-12-18 20:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the last 6 years by yourself and you're fine.
Why go backwards in life.
If he wants to finally be a father then you should let him....but for me that would be it.
Been there....done that.
2006-12-18 20:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋