I want to propose to my boyfriend?

Question

My b/f and I have lived with each other for a while now. He's just been away on a course for a fortnight and my heart has ached for him every second. I know he's the guy i want to be with forever, and I know he feels the same way. I'd like to propose to him this Christmas, but I'm not sure how!

What do you think is a good way to propose?

Answer 1

First buy a ring or whatever you will use to propose, and wrap it in a box inside a box, inside a box, and put it under the tree with the words "With Love".

On Christmas night, (about 3am) quietly crawl downstairs and put some champagne on ice by the Xmas tree, throw a blanket over the sofa and put some light snacks ready on a plate in the fridge.

Next, around the living room light numerous candles all around (it will look good with a Christmas tree and pressies, and a log fire burning if you have one).

Next, dress yourself up in sexy sophisticated nightwear (nothing dirty, this is you pledging to be his wife, not his dirty weekend fantasy).

Now, go and wake him, with the light off so he can't see you or your nightwear, tell him "you've got to come and see this" then go downstairs saying the words "hurry come on... Jack/sweetheart" (or whatever you call him), say it in an amazed but not scary type of tone.... curiosity killed the cat!!

When he walks in, he will be amazed at what Santa has done! Now, decide (spontaneously), that you thought it would be a nice idea that each of you can open one present. He must choose yours first for you to open, then you choose the big one for him. Both of you sit huddled together on the floor. (Blanket might be needed already if it’s cold).

Don't go down on one knee; be on his level on the floor together.

When he gets down to the ring, take his hand and tell him that the ring symbolises what you feel for him and that you can never image not spending Christmas with him for the rest of your life. Ask him if he likes your nightwear, and ask him if it’s what he can imagine a wife, rather than a girlfriend wearing. (By now you've given him enough hints). Hopefully he'll pick up the beat at this point and maybe he'll even say the words.

Depending on the outcome, making love on the floor would be a perfect ending and remember you could always throw that blanket over you both and enjoy the snacks in the fridge, in case you feel hungry at the end, whilst cuddling up.

At least he'll never forget this anniversary...

Merry Christmas and best of luck!

Answer 2

Hey Gem...I think that is great. Why wait for the 'traditional' proposal from the guy. If you're in love go for it. What is really special between the two of you? How did you meet? Can you make a special meal? Try to think of something romantic that will be special and surprise him. He probably won't have a clue that you are even thinking of it. Post some more details about what the two of you like and I'll see if I can help you come up with a proposal he (and you will) never forget! Good Luck!

Answer 3

Depends....... You could go dead romantic style - out for a meal, if you're lucky to have snow, get him outside. Go to midnight mass on christmas eve - you'd be in the right place then!

Are there any traditions for girls proposing? The only one i know is to propose on february 29th, but that would be a bit late in this case.

You could go really wild and have your proposal anounced somewhere- take him to a play or something and have it put into the production as it goes into the intermission or something. have it announced at a stadium somewhere. Pay a plane to fly a banner with a proposal on it somewhere. Ask a radio DJ to go to your boyfriends workplace and ask him on with it being live on air and you hiding round a corner somewhere

Or, you can discuss the issue with him over dinner, and see what he thinks of it. If you say that both of you are wating to be with each other forever then you should be able to have the discussion quite easily

Answer 4

That's very gutsy of you yet romantic. Have you talked about marriage yet? Guys usually need a gentle nudge into matrimony and many times when asked by their women about marriage initially say that they haven't thought of it or they aren't ready but soon come around and realize that they are. I'd hate to think that you'd catch him off guard and not get an answer that you want to hear.

I wouldn't do the ring and get down on one knee but I would tell him that while he was gone, I realized that I am better with him than without and I want to make it a permanent "with". Good luck, Sweetie! Your clearing the way for the rest of us!

Answer 5

Wow, who uses the word "fortnight" anymore? Shakespeare fan? Anyway -- what works for the gander should work for the goose -- I would try to get a simple gold ring (just for the symbolism) in his approximate size (using your own hand to gage his ring size), and present it to him either in private or public -- whichever you think would be more meaningful to him.

Here's how:
At a meal that you have at home, or at a restaurant, arrange to have it brought to him on a covered dish (have the waiter bring it if you go the restaurant) -- as if it were dessert, perhaps with wine or champagne? The details you can come up with -- whether you say it, or include a card with the ring.

I suggest a simple gold or silver ring, because its more appropriate for a man, is easily sized. Unless, of course, you know a more symbolic "taken" token (celtic design or whatnot).

The rule of thumb for men is that the cost of the ring should be equal to at least one month's salary -- but in this case it really is just a symbolic gesture.

The other option is just to quietly say, in a meaningful place at a meaningful time, "will you marry me?"

Answer 6

nicely you didnt point out how long you have been jointly...it relatively is often between the biggest components. as nicely that, there are maximum of issues that would impact this style of life selection. Are you the two in a physically powerful profession spot and financially reliable? yet another ingredient to recollect is that anybody, even couples that are 18 years previous "communicate' appropriate to the destiny....(its continually relaxing wishing eventhough they at the instant are not waiting). while you're severe then you certainly 2 would desire to have a severe verbal substitute approximately once you think of you men will circulate the subsequent step. You dont would desire to ask him to indicate, you're in simple terms asking "Whats next and whilst"? additionally I observed multiple human beings reported the "nerves". whilst my hubby finally proposed we were jointly for 8 years and he became shaking whilst he asked me...(Like i could have suggested "no")

Answer 7

Make dinner like pasta and stuff like an Italian look and when he gets hungry give him bread sticks and put the ring on the bread stick...if he like them, or get champagne and put it on the cork if it fits or give him a bouquet of flowers and put the ring on the stems and sooner or later he'll get the memo. Sit him at the table and just say; honey or sweety or babe i love you and i know you love me too and i fell that we should be on a higher level than where we are now so i want to ask you three questions....{1}do you love me {2} would you make a sacrifice for me {3} will you marry me



question 1 and 2 should be yes but if he says no to marriage that means he needs some time to come out of his shell and maybe get to know you better than he does now. also a quick tip crying makes them sensitive so cry if you think he'll say no. GOOD LUCK AND A MERRY CHRISTMAS!

Answer 8

PLEASE DON'T PROPOSE TO HIM!! Give him hints.. but you will sound desparate if you propose. Men are hunters by nature. Let him catch you.
If he's not wanting to marry, it's because he doesn't want to marry you! Face it! Give him an ultimatum or be prepared to move on. This is why parents tell girls never live w/ a man.

Answer 9

if you really want to, you definetely should. its not very original to propose on a holiday. but if that's what you want, scavenger hunts are awesome. i love scanvenger hunts. but im weird like that. and thats how i got this ring from my b/f so im kind of prejudiced about it.
good luck if you do propose though.

Answer 10

It doesn't matter how you do it, its what you say when you do it that is important. One idea is to make him dinner, and then propose during dessert. Another idea is to let him propose.