Do parents really love their children?

Question

People say they love unconditionally, but I've seen so many cases of parents that are extremely harsh, others that kick them out to the streets before they have a job that I seriously doubt. I'm 14, dont think I'm loved and I'm not sure if I wanna be a mother.

Answer 1

My mother wasn't treated very well by her parents either, but she had my brother and me and rose above her circumstances and was the best mother in the world. I wish you could have lived in our family when Mom was alive. She would have loved you, and we'd have made sure you grew up to believe in YOUR ability to love your own child. Take care of yourself and love yourself no matter what your parents do. I think you're worth it.

Answer 2

As a parent of 2 beautiful little girls (3 and 6) I would have to say that as with all things in life there are good and bad.

The majority of parents do love their kids unconditionally but that does not mean that by kicking a kid out of home that they love them any less.

My brother got kicked out of home when he was 15 but my parents did, and still do, love him unconditionally but his lifestyle was not somthing that my parents wanted for their other 2 kids at home (me and my sister) so they felt they had no choice.

You cannot judge parents for their actions, or kids for that matter, without knowing the full story.

Everyone on this earth has someone who loves them, the trickey thing is finding that person and giving the same love back.

At 14 you have only just started your journey and although you don't know it yet, it does get easier with expierance.

As you get older you start to see why parents did the things they did and it is only when you are a parent yourself that you can really start to appreciate your own parents because you face the same challanges they did while you were growing up.

If your parents feed you, cloth you, make sure you get to school, give you a clean bed to sleep in, hug you and say they love you, it doesn't get much better than that.

It is a hard job being a parent and in this day and age even harder to be a kid, or in your case a teenager.

If you don't feel loved it is a sad thing but unless you talk to your parent/s about how you feel how can they help you.

Yahoo answers is a wonderful place full of varying opinions but nothing beats a one on one chat with your family and friends.

Someone does love you even if you think there is no one.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Honestly, I think humans don't actually have the capability to love unconditionally. Seriously, now, think of someone you think you love "unconditionally"-- and then imagine them raping and savagely murdering your family, then coming for you and locking you up in a closet for years (or something else equally gruesome and horrible) --how long would that "unconditional" love last?

BUT--as a parent myself, I do think that the love between a parent and his/her child is an incredibly special bond. And, as my son is only 4 months old, I have not experienced any really rough spots with him yet, but I have parents, and I was "that age" not too long ago. Children can do a lot of awful things to their parents, and hurt them deeply, which can cause the parents to lash out emotionally, or to overreact.
When I was a teenager, I did a lot of things to hurt my parents-not on purpose, I just didn't think about how what I did would hurt them. I look back now and deeply regret that. No matter how or if they messed up parenting me, they love me and they never deserved the crap I gave them.

I think the question should be reversed--

Do kids really love their parents?

Answer 4

This parent would kill to protect (so to speak) her kids
I love them more than anything on earth & they are now grown up
some parents have problems,because they were treated very bad as a kid & then they dont know how to act when they have kids
but i dont understand that really because from the minute my kids were born i loved them like crazy
some parents may have mental problems that dont help
some take drugs as well & that is bad for kids because the person on drugs is not normal & therefore cant look after kids properly
you want to tell your Mum that you dont feel loved &
if she is a normal person with no hang ups etc she will be able to help you & make you feel loved
Mothers especially who are bad Mums must truly have something wrong with them because it is built into us to love & protect our children so if you learn some parent skills & have no hangups etc you will make a wonderful mum because you are caring enough now to know kids need to be loved
have a Merry Christmas & maybe
Join a Youth Group & your life will be a lot more fun if you get into a good youth group

Answer 5

I think that parents should love their kids unconditionally no matter what choices they decide to make. Parents seem to want their kids to live the way they taught them how to live or to be what they want to be. Some parents do the opposite and want their kids to learn from the life they've lived.
Parents kick their kids out to knock some sense into them but when the kid is determined than their parents know but the parents learn to accept the kid when they learn that this a part of who their kid is now.
You don't have to worry about being a mom right now, anyway because you have plenty of time.

Answer 6

U don't think u r being loved? That is just cruel. They obviously have a reason for kicking them out! Everyone loves their children no matter what. If u don't want to be a mother that's fine with me because look what u are saying now. U are saying I don't want to be a mother because I am not going to love my children! Have u thought through that u don't want to be a mother? Thought so! Of course some people do child abuse but some just do for thier own good. U know what! U don't want to be a mother then don't. Period.

Answer 7

There is not a thing or person that I love more than my kid. In fact I actually LIKE the person he is. If he were a stranger I just met I'd like him. How about trying to talk to your mum or dad about everyday things, try to open some common doors. Things like remakes of old songs make for common ground. Ask them questions about what it was like when they were 14. Not all parents love or show love in the same way, maybe they are just not emotional people. I know my dad got along much better with us when we got to be around 15.

Answer 8

I think that the majority of parent do unconditionally love their children. Unfortunately the ones you hear about are the bad parents.....because they are not normal! Please, take some time with your parents and talk about your feelings. If they are disciplining you, because they don't want you to get into trouble....they do love you, they just don't want you to be hurt. If they are abusive to you, then go to an extended family member, and get their help. Good Luck

Answer 9

There are good people and there are bad people.
There are good parents and there are bad parents.
Life's like that. Chances are that if you are a good person, then you'll be a good parent as well.

Sometimes people do stupid things because they think they have exhausted all their possibilities. The family conflict that you wittness doesn't mean that the family doesn't love each other. It only means that they need some help.

Answer 10

Don't be too harsh just because of your own opinion. As you get older you will begin to understand the huge challenges behind raising a child. They may be cranky sometimes, but most parents would give their lives for their children.