I went on my first date with this guy I met at school. He's very cool and very nice. We went on our first date where he took me to a restuarant. When the bill came up I remember my older sister telling me that since it's a first date I had to pay for my share of the bill so I offer to pay for my portion. But my date insisted that HE pay for all of it. In the end I ended up paying for my half but now he's mad at me for not letting him pay for all of it. Did I do the right thing by paying for my share?
2006-12-18 12:03:23 · 9 answers · asked by Iileen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course you did. If he doesn't think you can afford a meal, he's not enough of a man for you. You acted like an equal, and you deserve to be treated like one. I would have done the exact same thing were I in your situation. Good for you.
2006-12-18 12:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There really isn't a rule for this but etiquette dictates that the one who does the asking for the date should pay for it unless it is agreed that each person pays for their own half. However, if a guy insists on paying, you should politely allow him to do so and then thank him for dinner. On a first date I always asked how much I owed and would wait for them to answer with an amount or to see if they insisted on paying. Guys like to feel like the provider and it bruises their egos when the woman pays her own way or picks up the tab.
2006-12-18 20:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To offer to pay for your portion of the date was the right thing to do. But I would have let him pay. He asked you out, and even indicated that he expected to pay for dinner when he refused your offer to pay. Don't know how you build a bridge to get over this.
2006-12-18 20:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by eilishaa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to let the guy pay the bill. If you want to be considerate what you can do is offer to pay for parking. If its a movie and he pays for the movie ticket you can offer to pay for the popcorn. But lighten up about letting the guy pay its ok, but even if you do pay your portion he also shouldn´t make a big deal of it.
2006-12-18 20:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the guy asked you out, it does not matter if it is your first date or not, he picks up the bill....Unless, you agree to go dutch (both paying for your own meals).....I do not know where your sister got that idea...maybe, she thinks that if he pays for it, then you would owe him something...but that is not common....
The reason why he is mad, is that he wanted to do something for you and you would not let him...Tell, him why you did it and apologize, and maybe he will ask you out again.
2006-12-18 20:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO most guys feel affended by not being able to pay i would of let the guy pay for it.... you dont have to pay a portion unless you to agree to pay your own way but since you didnt i wouldnt of offerd to pay... it hurts a guys ego...
lots of luck and happy holidays
2006-12-18 20:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by Beth m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was right of you to offer, but if he really wanted to pay, you should of let him. It's not worth getting in a fight about.
2006-12-18 20:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by mbeast16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could have offered to pay half, but been polite and accepted his offer to pay for it all..
2006-12-18 20:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he paid, you should have slept with him.
2006-12-18 20:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋