Alright after posting the question 'Casual relationship vs Exculsive Relationship" I am prepared to post a question that feeds off of it.
Exclusive Relationships
I am so prepared for it...I have a 2 year old daughter...and I want to share it all with someone, but it is so hard. I work full time I go to school in the evenings and then of course I have my daughter 3/4's of time.
Should I even be trying when I have so much on my plate?
I am also very particular I happen to enjoy older white men...Older men don't seem to want to have anything to do with me, although I feel I very mature for my age (having child and all).
Then this brings me to the Interracial Relationships...I love white men (all my friends call me the whitest, black person)...However I think I have more luck with black men...It is just not my cup of tea...Are people closed off to interacial relationships?
Should I broaden my horizons?
Ok I know that question was jam packed...but give me your best!
2006-12-18 11:56:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok...well to answer the first part: the only person who knows how much you can handle is you. think about it...you are in school, work and have a little one. if you wanted to spend time with a guy you are seeing, how would you do that?? ask yourself questions about that. relationships do take some work to make them work.
there's nothing wrong with interracial relationships. i am in one and am quite happy. if older white guys are who you like, then that's just great. don't let anyone tell you who you should and shouldn't date. it's your life. as long as they treat you and your little one well, then that's just awesome.
about broadening horizons...maybe and maybe not. if you feel that there's more to life and relationships than older white guys, then try something else. it kinda just takes some thinking through.
good luck :)
2006-12-18 12:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a product of an interracial relationship, but why are you limiting yourself? You really have narrowed down the spectrum out there especially since the older the man the more likely he's in a relationship already no matter what race he is.
What do you do in your spare time? Do you enjoy doing the same things as these men that you are attracted to? Are you knowledgeable about the activity to the point where it's impressive? A longterm relationship isn't just based on the physical, you have to have similar interests.
Regardless, I think you should always take time out for yourself so keep casually dating. I know this sounds bad, but if this demographic is truly the one you are targeting, you have to look in the mirror to see if you are the type of woman these guys go for. Maybe you could dress more conservatively or wear different hairstyles. Even working out will make you feel more self confident around these men.
But to me it sounds that these men you are attracted to are being as close-minded as you are.
2006-12-18 12:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Dominique A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give it a try, maybe you would find a guy with children as well. He might know what you are going through and have connection with that. Also, age doesnt mean thing--it's mind over matter (if you dont mind then it doesnt matter) As far as the interracial relationship-GO FOR IT... the color of someone's skin shouldn't stop you from finding love, if you like white guys then that's all you.. don't listen to anyone ..nothing wrong with interracial relationships :)
2006-12-18 12:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jules 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don´t think interracial relationships are bad. I don´t think any of that should matter if you love someone. Try not to narrow your choices just be open to meeting the guy who makes you happy no matter what package he comes in. Also, know that interracial relationships can be rough though.
2006-12-18 12:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm an "older white guy" 35 and I'm very attracted to all races. I love women..lol..white, black, hispanic..asian...they are all so beautiful...so what was i saying..lol..oh yeah...my guess is that they prolly aren't aware of your attraction to them..try flirting more..or being more blunt...as far as your plate being to full that can really only be answered by you..you know how much you can handle..good luck and if you want you can always hook up with me..lol
2006-12-18 12:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by kneelandbob69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I happen to know that older white guys LOVE young black chics. The baby may be a turnoff though, nobody likes too much baggage...
2006-12-18 12:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interracial relationships = just plain gross.
2006-12-18 11:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Homo habilis 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋