am not a mother but i always wondered about such a thing,i mean some ppl really believes that their children won't repeat the mistake if they get beaten and other ppl thinks the best way to teach ur children the right things is by talkin to them so i just wanna know why is it wrong to beat ur children?
2006-12-18 11:46:51 · 17 answers · asked by Tara 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well in the first place it is not right to put your hands on anybody
and give them bruises, break an arm, leg or send them to the hospital. If you were a child and I was your mom would you like
me to beat the crap out of you? NO I don't think so, why cause
it is not right. When I was a child I only got hit one time, for something my sister did, which all she was doing was talking to her boy-friend through our bed-room window. And because I was in the bed-room, I got hit as well. But when I was a
teenager, I would get hit more with a thick belt, which hurt, but I
got over it. I just don't think it is right to hit at all. I didn't hit my
daughter when she was a child, but when she was a teenager
I would slap her and it would hurt me more then it would hurt her.
I never used a belt on my kids, Why because I knew how it felt
so there was no use for it. Now my daughter is 22 years old and
she has her own kids and I tell her not to hit her daughter (4), her
other child is only 1. Now I have a 9 year old and I threaten her
and she gets scared just if I talk like that because ,she know I
never even hit her or hit with a belt, so she will start crying
and ask me why am I talking like that. So yes it is wrong to hit
any child at any age for any reason.
2006-12-18 12:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean beating as in breaking arms, legs, or leaving horendous bruises, or beating as in punishment with a belt?
The former is unquestionably wrong. Its illegal to break the arm of a stranger, so why would anyone want to do it to the child they raised? Its crazy.
The latter, even though I don't like it, I guess its useful and I don't think its illegal; if so, it shoudln't be.
I'm from the South, down here, sitting down and talking to a kid about why what they did is wrong is stupid, none of us sit still long enough, or even care to listen. My punishment for doing something wrong has been a whipping as long as I can remember, and I guess I'm a pretty good kid. Me and my parents have a good relationship, I make good grades, never drank, smoked, or done drugs, never had sex...I'm polite and nice to everyone(most of the time) And I try to always do what's right because that's the way I've been raised and its what my parents still teach me. Sure, they gave me whippings with a belt when I was younger, but I learned what I was supposed to and everyything turned out all right.
When people think of beatings, parents whipping their children, they think cruelty, but its NOT. No REAL parent would leave bruises, or actually hurt them other than a few tears and a red bottom. If I had to guess everyone up there saying physical punishment is wrong is from the North; but of course, I wouldn't want to stereotype.
2006-12-18 13:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by JAPAN-the super asian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me clarify, there is a big difference between beating your child and spanking your child. When I see "beating" to me that means beating them with the intent to cause harm to teach a child a lesson. Spanking is more from my mother's generation where they tapped us on the behind.
These days, neither is favorable. If you are beating your child (per my first definition) you are physically abusing your child which is not only illegal but you can lose custody of your children if Family Services gets wind of what's going on. If you do spank (which again, is not looked upon favarobly) and you leave a briuse you can also be substantiated for abuse.
Time outs and talking to your child (within their age level) is really the way to go. Whatever you do, NEVER beat a child.
2006-12-18 13:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by A M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to hit someone who is not as strong as you?
If your a mother or father and you have a child you want to do what ever you can to help them. They are only human and if you hit them then you could end up being a hipicrite. What if you end up hitting your child for something that you once did?
You should be open and kind to them and tell them they shouldn't have done what ever it was they did, If you hit them then they will never go to when they do something wrong.
Also why try and beat up someone who is weaker then you are. Just because they did something wrong doesnt mean they should be punished in a way that could effect them in the future.
2006-12-18 12:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by ?¿? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is it wrong? Because as parents, you are supposed to love your children to the point of giving your life up for them. How can you physically hurt someone that you love that much? They are just little people learning right from wrong. We are the adults and are supposed to be in control. It's NEVER right to beat your children.
There are many other ways of discipline that don't cause physical pain.
2006-12-18 11:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is abusive to raise a hand to your child. I never have and never will hit my children, I love them and I would never want to cause them any pain. There are many other ways of teaching them right from wrong. Sadly, many parents think that this is the right way to handle things is by hitting them. I talk to my kids and it has worked for me the entire time.
2006-12-18 12:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hurting another person isn't something you should do under any circumstances and if you believe that your children won't do that mistake again, think of all the things that may happen afterwards. Your children can become abusers as well and it's just one vicious cycle.
2006-12-18 12:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Rawr_Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it has been proven that positive reinforcements (such as giving out rewards and compliments) works WAY better than negative reinforcements (physical punishment). However, some people get into the cycle of physical punishment because of their own childhood and see it as an easier way of punishment.
2006-12-18 11:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it's against the law to beat up strangers why can you beat people you're supposed to love.
Also these "people" are a lot smaller than the people who are beating them.
If you have to beat your children you don't know how to be a parent.
2006-12-18 11:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to beat up your children because it is cruel and unjust punishment. You need to talk to them about what they did wrong and if they do it again, then put them in time out to think about what they did.
2006-12-18 11:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by mandm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋