I caught my son drinking alcohol at home in is room this is not the first time what should i do he's 19 yrs ol

Answer 1

Don't blow it out of proportion. Personally, wouldn't you rather have him drinking at home vs. out with his friends, or god forbid behind the wheel of a car? 19 year old boys drink - that is just a fact of life.

If what you are saying is that you think your son has a problem - then that is a different story. You need to intervene and get him help and make sure he get the help he needs before it escalates into something that is out of control.

Answer 2

don't worry about it. I drank plenty of times when I was 16-20. I came out all right. I'm sure he'll be ok too. He may even be taking drugs from time to time. Don't be alarmed. Just be a good parent by giving him space. It's natural for him to be a little rebellious. Try and talk to him but do more listening than talking. That will be the only way you can get into his mind. He has to feel he can trust you. If he confides to you and you tell your entire office, he'll feel like you are a backstabber. That's why teens are often more close to their friends than their parents. If I were your son and knew you were on yahoo answers asking for advice, I would want to avoid telling you any details of what I do because you would not come off as discreet.

Good luck and be easy on him. He loves you in his own way but at his age, where he is maturing, he needs lots of space.

Just think about how you were when you were 19.

Answer 3

I've always thought that if you are old enough to die for your country, you're old enough to drink. Just be thankful he is safe at home and not driving around putting others lives at risk. If it was my son I would evaluate the situation to make sure he did not have an alcoholism problem, talk with him, and go from there. If it still doesn't sit right with you, help him to become financially independent and find his own home, he's more than old enough for it.

Answer 4

First you should be thankful that he is at home drinking. At least he isn't out with his friends getting into bad situations. And he isn't anywhere that he'd have to drive or leave with someone who has been drinking and driving. I first got drunk at 14, now that's more of something to be worried about. My dad always said that he would rather have me do it at home instead of out risking getting caught or introuble, God rest his soul. If you really don't like it then talk to him. But if he still wants to do it and you say he can't do it there he will go off and do it somewhere more dangerous.

Answer 5

at 19 he is an adult but living in your home so if you have rules against it then tell him no way and if he isnt on his way or already an alcoholic it shouldnt be a problem for him to abide by your wishes however if he does have a drinking problem then show him tough love now its the only way to teach him,,, kick him out and dont help him with money or anything else its hard i know but that is the only way someone with a drinking problem will start to see what he is doing,,,

Answer 6

first of all, do you drink ? and do you drink at home when you are alone and has he watched you doing that while growing up ? Kids learn more by observing than by being instructed. If yes then the change should come from you first, and if not, then he definately needs professional counselling. drinking alone in his room is a very bad sign and he has to be educated about where it could lead to.

Answer 7

I would consider having a doctor talk to him about the reason why alcohol is illegal until 21. His brain is still developing, and alcohol can alter the way his brain develops, even at 19.

If you have any alcoholism in the family, drinking alone should be a huge warning sign. At that age, drinking is primarily a social activity or a way to cope with stress and depression. Using alcohol to cope with stress and depression is unacceptable at any age. Again, have the doctor talk to him about how excess alcohol affects the body.

I would even try to talk to a college biology professor about getting access to liver specimens. "Here's a healthy liver. Here's the liver of somebody who drinks too much."

True, he's a legal adult, so you don't exactly have the ability to punish him.

You can talk to him about how you feel about it. Don't insult him. Don't try to shame him. Don't get angry or dominating. Just tell him how it makes you feel and that you worry about him.

Keep alcohol out of your house and set an example as well.

Answer 8

The drinking age in America is really ridiculous. If you are old enough to serve in the armed forces, drive, and vote, you are old enough to drink. It is illegal, but your son is an adult and is responsible for his own life. Let him be responsible for your own decisions. If you don't like it, you have every right to kick him out.

Answer 9

Perfectly normal for that age. Honestly, wouldn't you rather him drink at home where he is safe then drink in public and drive etc. He is going to drink no matter what you do, he is at that age and honestly, it is not a big deal. He is an adult at this point.

Answer 10

First of all do you drink? if you do you really can not tell him not to b/c then that would make you a hipocrite. teenagers will do what they want as long as your not around and you can't be around him 24/7. maybe you could try explaining him the consequences of drinking and advise him not to drive while drinking. You have every right to kick him out of your house if you disaprove of what he has done. other than that i'm stumped. Hope it helped.