Alright, please no one leave an insulting answer. I don't need that right now. My fiance and i have been together for almost 3 years. I love him, but sometimes i feel like he looks at me like a burden more then anything. I've met someone online and really have taken a liking to him. I'm starting to see more in him that i love then my fiance. He wants to take care of me, and show me the world. He wants to be spontanious and make me laugh. I'm in ontario and he's in SC, so if i was to be with him, that would be a big move for me, both for the reasons of having to end a serious relationship with my fiance and also leaving my family. Although, i know i can come back up here when ever i want. I need an outsiders point of view on this, what should i do?
2006-12-18 11:33:31 · 24 answers · asked by ~*Stephie*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stephanie,
You are willing to take a chance on leaving everything you have worked for and everything that you've known for a man on line? Someone you have never met or seen? I can understand why you might be afraid of getting married. Maybe you should talk to your fiance about how he feels about you being a burden? But don't get married yet...your not ready. And have this man come down to you. This guy needs to man-up and meet your family and you. Please think of all the what-if's.
2006-12-18 12:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok sweetie, let's get this straight. You want to leave your boyfriend in Ontario for some guy you know only through online conversations? I know you want the truth but it isn't pretty. SO HERE I GO. My first thought is that it is so sad you believe anything some dude online tells you. His entire life story he's told you could be fake. My second thought is that what you really want isn't some dude from SC, it's an excuse to ditch the whole marriage thing. I'm married so take my advice. Break off the engagement and fess up to the truth, you aren't ready. I wouldn't want you doing something for which you are totally unprepared, and I honestly think your fiance' deserves better.
2006-12-18 11:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, I'll refrain from my typical dry humor. if you go there will be trouble, if you stay there will be double. Ur facing some big ideas sweetheart. Sorry if you are loosing ur fiance, but it could be a blessing. It's good to find solace and comfort and appreciation from someone far away. It gives tantalizing possibilities, full of wonder and hope, like a nice dream. So be sure it's real. I've been in internet relationships, and I am active on answers. What I find to be true is people on the net are not all they seem. Not just the unknowns, but personalities rarely match the true person. Some feel empowered and free on the net because they are not exposed emotionally, and anonymity is an excellent sheild. You are in an e-relationship that is based on text, and ur lonely, vulnerable, kind spirit. It's easy to look into a migic mirrior and see our dreams come true just the way we want them, they rescue us from our troubles, and offer hope in the unknown. Just be careful hon, there's wolves out there.
2006-12-18 11:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want to do something so drastic? I mean you don't really know anything about this guy. People you meet online can be very deceptive, first off because the chances of you actually meeting in person are slim to none, and then you have the danger factor. If I were you I would do some serious research on this guy. Google and people finder the heck out of him and find out as much as you can. You want to make a life changing decision, without knowing if it's at the least safe. I would suggest that you maybe schedule a very public vacation meeting. Then find out if it will be worth it. Ask him for pictures of his home, family. Find out if and where he works, things that it would be hard for him to lie about. What you are thinking can be very dangerous and you should be very careful. Good Luck.
2006-12-18 11:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yo met him on line? You gotta be kidding sweat pea. I tell ya this I'm in NC and no offense fellas', but the biggest bullsh*t artist are in the dirty south baby girl. Er that's why they call it the dirty south. Not only that on-line relationships can be dangerous. Chill out will ya?
PS you said your fiance feels like you're a burden, if you're looking for a man to take care of you then you will be a burden. This is a new time honey, men are getting tired of that sh*t, a lasting relationship is between two people who take care of each other. Only very wealthy men can keep a kept woman, and I heard through the grapevine that they are get tired of it too!!
2006-12-18 11:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jazz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 16:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by mcguinn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sort of nervous when u say "on-line". I would be totally careful with meeting people via internet. Anyway- you will always see things in other people that you may be missing in your current relationship. marriage is a big step, maybe you should tell him you need some time to re-evaluate your relationship. Love and relationships are alot of work. and if your only looking for someone to make you lagh, than you shouldn't get married. I think there may be some other issues going on.
2006-12-18 11:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you sure the man you're becoming involved with is who he says he is? He could be just like you: involved with someone else, but playing around on the computer. I think if you're unhappy with your finance, end it tomorrow. But don't do it for some online pal you know nothing about. There are predators, creeps, ex-cons, perverts, and weirdos on the net who know exactly how to manipulate lonely, unhappy women. Don't you find it odd that a man who has never met you is offering to take care of you and show you the world?
2006-12-18 11:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well have you talked to your boyfriend about you being a "burden", or is this something you think and have no proof of? Because maybe you are just looking for an out somehow and found it. I would talk to your fiance, you loved him at one time, find out before you uproot your whole life which could be for nothing.
2006-12-18 11:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very different meeting someone online, and then when you have to live with them in real life. For all you know, he could be a killer or something.
If I was you, I would not trust him and I would not move. Men have a tendency of promising things that they are not planning of doing, just to achieve their goals.
If you are unhappy with your fiance, talk it over with him, and if that does not work, then you can leave him.
Perhaps, it would be good for you to spend some time alone and then just let destiny do its thing.
Good luck!
2006-12-18 11:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by oneblueanjel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋