she thinks im doing it because i feel sorry for her but i do it because i see her now as a friend . is this right
2006-12-18 11:06:49 · 21 answers · asked by bob a builder 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do think it's nice but although you see her as a friend now you've gotta make sure that's how she sees it to.
Otherwise you're not giving her time to get over the relationship ending before embarking on a different kind of relationship.
It's difficult because you obviously care for her as a friend but let her come to you when she's ready for friendship and try not to rush things.
You don't want crossed wires because you'll lose the friendship to. if she thinks there's a chance you might get back together you need to put her straight in a sensitive but straight forward manner.
Good luck.
xxx
2006-12-18 11:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok.. an EX is an EX for a reason..
if you are helping her out like this she is going to think maybe theres a chance at getting back together and get her hopes up.
basically, i only see this hurting her when all is said and done.
it would help her more if she were left alone to learn to help herself.
2006-12-18 19:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I thinking helping her is fine and I'm sure she appreciates the help too! Friends help friends right?
2006-12-18 19:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Justanotherday26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's write because if u just think of her as a friend know thats what friends do. But i really think it's going to lead back to a relationship.
2006-12-18 19:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by the use 2 b's 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may have some feelings that are supresed and are coming through with all the help you are giving. Try to explain that you are just friends and nothing more.
2006-12-18 19:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by lilithfan_bebe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
heck yeah! you are such an awesome guy for helping out your ex but if you have a new girlfriend then you better stop helping the ex. because that is a big no.
2006-12-18 19:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yup. u have to teach her how to act. if she thinks ur doing it just because u feel bad for her means that she doesnt understand that even people that break up that they can be friendly toward each other. u must teach her that thats not true. eventually she will get used the idea, if not, her loss!
-good luck!!
2006-12-18 19:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyezemily 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no! no! no!
she wants u 2 come on to her and she misses u and just wants to see u so maybe the relationship will work out this time s think so different.
2006-12-18 19:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well done to Staci C for being one of the only honest females here..
dR Bad
2006-12-18 19:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you tell her you want to be friends and that's what friends do, be there for each other. You are not doing anything wrong
2006-12-18 19:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋