An average encounter brought Joseph into my life, we connect more deeply than I have ever experienced. I anticipate his conversation and we flow freely through stream of conciousness discussions.
After we fell weak to the physical attraction I began developing feelings. Although he had been forward about the fact that he is involved with someone.
My infatuation runs so strongly that I offered to remain on the side so that if and when his relationship ended, I would be readily available. I feel for him, he is so torn and although he continues to tell me how much I mean to him, he cannot just walk out of his relationship that easily. Thank God no children are involved.
I now regret what I have said. And I need to remove myself from the situation immediately. I care for him deeply but want the relationship to run its course naturally. If they are not meant to be it will end, and he will always be able to call me. But I can't knock the crush. I dream of him, and feel his absense. Help m
2006-12-18 10:48:07 · 11 answers · asked by Crystal_Blu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing worse than asking what if. I lost my soul mate because she was married when I was available. I figured she'd never be available and got married. Shortly after, she got divorced. I've lost my chance forever because I wasn't patient enough. If he is truely your soul mate, wait on him.
2006-12-18 10:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by eric_litwiller 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like all of these guys that are "perfect" are married or in long term relationships. Doesn't make them sound so perfect does it? seems like these guys connect and have and make the time to connect to everyone except for their wife or partner. Putting your life on hold until he chooses what he wants to do isn't fair to you and makes you sound like you have a very low self esteem of yourself. If he felt the same way you do - well we wouldn't even be having this conversation would we? because he would be with you. If there are no kids involved and he says he doesn't feel as strongly for his partner as he does you then why is he still there?! Oh let me guess...is it the whole my wife has cancer and is dying and I feel I really need to be there for her BS? I am soooo glad you have choosen to remove yourself from that! Good for you! AI know it's hard but stop returning his calls and go out with some friends of yours to get your mind off of him. Guys like this KNOW what they are doing and KNOW how badly they are making you feel. No guy is worth it! Be strong and move on!
2006-12-18 10:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to do the right thing here. Protect yourself, if he has not left his (wife?) he won't. Also why would want to be involved in ruining a relationship? Put yourself in the other persons shoes.
2006-12-18 10:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by meow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your pain.
Step away from him now - abort all contact and let him know that what you want is more than what he has to offer.
Once he has finished this relationship, if you are still available you would love to see him exclusively.
Then walk away and don't look back.
It will hurt alot and then, magically, it will feel better.
Good Luck.
2006-12-18 10:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are NOT perfect if they are in a long term ralationship.
I have no interest in a guy that does not put ME in a long term serious committed relationship. He can't do that if he is already in one.
2006-12-18 10:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im in the same situation, all you can do is be his mate and invite conversation with open arms, you dont under any circumstances get in the way of his girl firend and his relaionship, how would you feel if she did it to you?, my crush and i flirt but im not being funny, i would never get in the way, if its ment to be its ment to be, just be patient, if he likes u then hell dump his current and get with you and you cant be blamed fo anything
2006-12-18 10:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by sarah_squidge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just want what you can't have. Until you realize that's why you're so attracted to him, you will continue to feel this way. Good night!
2006-12-18 10:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel and im sorry but yes the best thing is to back off rather than be the other lady ---- im so glad neither my lady nor myself were in other relationships when we met
2006-12-18 11:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to walk away, now especially cause you are a woman, you should not do that to a woman, how would you feel if someone did that to you. anyways you shouldn't do that to yourself!
2006-12-18 10:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by michelle b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing ok.
2006-12-18 10:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋