My daughter is starting preschool next month(she is 4). I am a stay at home mom and have been since day 1, so she is quite attached to me. She is also very shy, so how can I get her to cope with being away from me at preschool for 3 hours a day?
2006-12-18 10:36:54 · 9 answers · asked by Lovely_1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Mother-child separation is one of the most difficult problems to solve. As a teacher, I see it all the time. The best thing to try would be to go to the preschool and play with your child for a short time and get others to join in. When it is time to go, you tell the child that you will come back and that she can play with her friends/toys until you return.
The biggest problem is that children see time as being different. When you were at home, she would cry and you would be there immediately. Now that is not the case, so she feels insecure.
I have found that friendship is the only solution to this problem. When the children have friends, they run into school and look for their friends. Those who don't, cling to their parents and cry.
This is a very difficult situation, but I hope that my suggestions can help.
2006-12-18 12:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about before she starts going. Don't talk like it's a bad thing. Say something like "You get to meet new friends and have so much! Then you can tell mommy everything that happened that day!" Be excited for her.
The night before remind her about how she's going to school the next day and how much fun she will have. (It would be good if you could take her in to meet her teacher before she actually starts, so it's not a total shock).
When you take her into school, do not stay there and say goodbye for an hour. Drop her off, set up her things, act excited by all the kids and the teacher. Hug her, kiss her, say "Bye sweetie, mommy will see you very shortly!". Then leave and do not look back. Most kids get more and more upset the longer their parents stay and hold them. If you don't act like it's a big deal, then neither will she. And when you come pick her up day after day, she will realize that you will always come back.
Stay strong, it's hard! But it will get easier.
2006-12-18 11:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your preschool teachers should be a great help with this...if not it's not the right school. I would bring your daughter to the school and have her meet her teachers ahead of time. If you expect to just drop her off on the first day with her not meeting her teachers first you will pay!!!! I brought my daughter in to meet her teachers and showed her around the school a week or so before it started. Then I kept talking about what a big girl she is going to school already!!! I teased her about how jealous I was going to be that she gets to make projects, sing etc without me. Then on the 1st day keep your goodbyes short and sweet....it will be harder on you than her!
2006-12-18 10:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by momof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know as i myself am a stay at home mum. My daughter who is 2 1\2 has been going to kindy for a year. At first she didn't want to go and didn't want me to leave. She is also a shy girl as well so that made it difficult to part.
I explained to her that i would see her in a few hours, she going to kindy 2 days a week for 6 hrs a day. I I talk to her about playing with her friends, doing activities. She is very attached to me as well but as she got used to the environment she didn't get so attached. She gets attached when i drop her off as she doesn't want me to leave but then she gets right into playing with friends.
It may be hard for your child to let go of you for a few hours but it will be worth it in the long run. good luck.
2006-12-18 17:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Being a stay-at home mom i feel your concern. My daughters first day of pre-school, I picked her up early (12pm) and took her out for icecream, the second day she was ok with staying till 2pm, and so on. Putting her in gradually,a little longer every day till the week was finally over, reasurred her that no matter how long she stayed, Mommy would come for her at the end of the day.
Good Luck!
2006-12-18 11:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 02:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have started her a while ago to get used to this and other children. But anyway you didn't so I would bring this into her play. Play dolls or house with her and pretend that her doll is going to daycare make pretend you are kissing her goodbye and tell her you will see her in a little while and pretend that you are having a grand old time in daycare reading books and coloring. Pretend you are her teacher so she can get farmilar with her name. She hasn't started school yet she may be fine.
2006-12-18 11:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her that she going to preschool.. and make her understand.. and tell her you see in few hours when you drop her off.. Every kid is attached to they parents.. I remember when i was kid and I was going into kindergarten and i start crying.. because i do not wanted to go.. and wanted to go home.. and my dad said you be fine.. so i trust him.. or tell her, she would make some friends and she can tell you all about it after school..and i do not have kids.. but plan to in the future.. with my husband...
2006-12-18 10:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if there are any play groups you can bring her to in the mean time... she will get used to being around other kids.
Then she can start "big girl" school and hopefully will accept that mommy has to go to "mommy school" while she goes to "big girl" school.
2006-12-18 11:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋