My sister in law Jessica doesn't like me, even though I am the mother of her pecious bundles, she can't have k

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ids. And she wants my husband to divorce me, she can't have kids and since I have 4, she says that if my hubby doesn't divorce me she'll take our new child, Chandlee (I'm 7 months pregnant) away and adopt her...we've threatened to sue her for attempted kidnapping among other things but she won't stop! Our 6 year wedding anniversary is on Wednesday and she's coming over. I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE F TO DO.!!!

We're not bad parents. I am a healthy 29 year old preschool teacher and my hubby is a healthy 30 year old Liutendant in the NAVY.

She doesn't like that her brother and I conceived a child before marriage, and now that I had the kid shes pissed.

Answer 1

This woman has serious mental health issues. You need to make boundaries and have agreed upon consequences in advance of the party,so if she crosses any lines at the anniversary party you will have a plan of action (e.g. make her leave). If she is invited at all. You may want to consider telling her she is not invited due to her irrational behavior, but do send her a restraining order to make your point.
Make sure the other family members and friends know what she is saying and doing and if necessary, announce what she has said and why it is unacceptable and then have your husband and a buddy escort her from the party.
There will be plenty of witnesses there to her bizarre behavior if she chooses to act up there. You will most likely be able to threaten her with a restraining order (be sure to be ready to follow through) or even with giving her the choice of being arrested or getting professional help.
Some women go nuts because they can't have a child... I keep thinking about the woman who just got murdered and her baby kidnapped... please take this very seriously, that behavior is way over the line, and NOT NORMAL!!!
Good luck, and do not hold back or try to save face for this woman! Do what you have to do to protect yourself and your family! - dd

P.S. What business is it of hers when you concieved your first baby, what like 6 years ago?? You are adults and married now...A baby concieved out of wedlock still belongs to the parents and is not up for grabs by the family or general public until the parents relinquish parental rights. Why would she think she has any say in this situation? This woman is just too bizarre! I would really start documenting these incidents so you can have a solid case if you need to get a restraining order. Sounds like she needs help, and possibly medication.

Answer 2

She can't take away your kids or make you get a divorce. The only thing she can do is if you two are doing something wrong like drugs or abusing your children she can call social services and they can investigate and if they find you to be unfit parents they will take away the children, so unless you two are doing something wrong I won't worry to much. If she becomes a real problem maybe you and hubby should consider a restraining order to protect your little family.

Answer 3

What is her reason for wanting her brother to divorce you? Does she think you are bad?
Why is she threatening to take your baby? She must have a reason for this or you and 'hubby' would have put an end to it already, I think.

If she has absolutely no valid reason for her actions then cut ties with her and save your family because she will probably cause you damage eventually. Involve the law if necessary.

It is YOUR marriage, YOUR home and YOUR family. Defend it!

Answer 4

Okay, assuming you have your husband's support- you need to stop the contact with her as the stress and threats are BAD FOR THE BABY. Try speaking with local authorities as to which agencies are suitable for your situation. Inform her that if she does not cease and decist you will press charges. And if she does not stop, dont take her calls, dont answer the door, and call the police. Time to think of the well being of the children you already have and the baby you are carrying, get rid of the stress.

Answer 5

I think the best thing to do is keep some space. My mom had kicked me out for about 6 months when I was younger and had gotten pregnant and now we are close again. Some people just need time and space. p.s. age has NOTHING to do with how good of a parent you are

Answer 6

Because you say that "we've" told her that we would sue her, that you and your husband or on the same team. Can she take your child no and becasue she has said this she prob. won't be left alone with you child to do this.

Can she cause you problems? of course she can and she has.
and she can continue to do so...........simple tell her that if she can't behave and quit talking about divorce that she won't be allowed to be a part of your children's life.......

Answer 7

May I refer you to a website that has helped me through so much that I have been through with my own inlaws, dont take the name wrong, its not about hate, just strong dislike (lol) www.ihatemyinlaws.com the people on there are supportive and you dont even have to join you can just browse through and see what others are going through and what works and what doesnt. good luck and dont let her get to you, the best thing you can do is just live a happy marriage, thats the best revenge.

Answer 8

I have a sister in law that I don't like but for a different reason. You need to be very careful with this woman. Is her husband aware of her behavior. Be on your p's an q's. She might have a mental disorder.

Answer 9

Why in the world would you let her in your house?????

The first thing you need to do is call the police and see if you can get a restraining order on her. She has threatened you, you should be able to do something about it.

Answer 10

First of all I would tell your husband that if he allows that woman in your home that you will divorce him. I dont mean literally of course but I would not allow a person who has made such horrible threats near me and my family. Since its your husbands sister he needs to be the one to cut contact.