I had to go abroad for work and my boyfriend said he would wait for me, we were so madly in love everything was perfect, he asked me to marry him, we planned our life together, But I started getting messages from a girl who said he was sleeping with him, she knew things she shouldn't know, and at first I accepted his explainations for how she knew these things,(as flimsy as they were) then I was sent disgusting photographs of what looked exactly like my fiance and another woman.He denied them profusely, and still denies them. But I have been hurt before my last BF of 5 years cheated on me, and people told me and I didn't believe them. Was I right to walk away? Or should I have ignored the pictures, and given him the benefit of the doubt? BTW he has admitted it is his face in the pictures, but he insists they have been digitally altered.I keep feeling I have thrown away the best thing in my life because I was scared to take a risk and get hurt again. Did I blow it?
2006-12-18 10:27:08 · 11 answers · asked by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry! "she was sleeping with him"
2006-12-18 10:28:07 · update #1
I did have the pics tested and they came back as authentic, that was the last straw.But some people are now saying if a pic is saved and rescanned several times it can become impossible to tell if it is fake.
2006-12-18 10:35:26 · update #2
you did the right thing.
whether or not the pics were athentic, you had every right to put the brakes on and take some time to figure things out.
if anything, I'd say the drama that happened afterwards only proves that point. only proves you were right to call it quits. don't let a manipulative cheater make you feel bad about yourself. you are a wonderful person, and have the friends to prove it!
2006-12-21 00:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
its doubtful that this girl went to all the trouble of digitally altering the photo's to break you's up , people only really do that wit celebs or if the photo's will make them money. i think you've done the right thing, you've been hurt before and seeing as your in a different country what else can you do? move on with your life, go have some fun. it sounds like you've been in relationships for a long time so let your hair down and let loose, you'l be able to sort your head out and who knows what may happen in the future! good luck!
2006-12-18 18:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by Caz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have.
You let lies and the jealousy of others blind you from the truth. Blind you from what you knew was real, and true. Our love. Your past coupled with enough outside influence, cost both of us a life that could have been wondefull. I will always love you. ALWAYS!!!! you cant love me. You dont even trust me. Every word i said might as well have been a lie, or fell on def ears. I pourd my heart out to you, and you still didnt beleive me. What did i have to do to regain your trust? Your love? You? The truth is always harded to beleive than a lie. Because the truth seems so difficult to beleive sometimes. Especially when this entire thing was so perfect. So pure. Un failable. you held the keys. You had the power to come home to me, yet you chose to let your past, and all the lies keep you from me. I will always be here for you. Just call and tell me you will be at JFK, and ill be there, again, to scoop you up, and whisk you away, just as i hoped to do last time. But you never showed up. You didnt beleive in us enough to show up. You broke my heart...
I love you.
i alway will.
R
xo
2006-12-20 09:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Rico12 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
as much as it may hurt. i think you did the right thing. what does your gut tell you about it all?... it doesnt lie...really... its a matter of if you want to listen to it. being alone is hard... trusting is hard. but... i have found out the hard way and lost ... that if you dont have trust... you dont have anything really. you just dont. this situation will come back to haunt you...someday...whether it be in an arguement or you busting him for sure. but i find it hard to believe that someone has a conspiracy to get you to break up with him and go to the extent of digitally mastering a pic to screw him over
2006-12-18 18:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by pencilnbrush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I wish you were somewhat more mature Sherry and open your eyes wide. I think you are too romantic for this World or you desperetely need to be loved. Sorry if I'm wrong. No you were not wrong. Just the wrong guy again. You didn't mess up if the pics were that obvious. Good luck.
2006-12-19 09:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either take him back and dismiss the whole thing or dump him and move on. I think if you let him go you are making a big mistake. Why would someone send you pictures of him in a position like that unless that were trying to break you two up? Doesn't make sense.
2006-12-18 18:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by rilindy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can have the pic's tested to see if they were digitally altered. More than likely he thought he wasn't going to get caught. Move on with your life. He is not worth your time if he is not truthful to you.
2006-12-18 18:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, I think you know already. You already said that you gave him a chance, which it sounds like he didn't really deserve, from the "I accepted his explanations...as flimsy as they were". I don't think you blew it, I think he probably did screw up, because if he didn't have valid reasons or alibis, then what other option is there, yanno? Good luck, that sounds like it was really hard
2006-12-18 18:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by High On Life 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no u did not mess up! u were right to leave that lieing sack of ****. dont beat ur self up over this u did the right thing. now forget about that bastard and go on with ur life dont let him slow u down.
2006-12-18 18:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him.
2006-12-18 18:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋